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Dear His Way Out Ministries…

The lesbian couple next door has adopted a child and invited me to attend a “celebration of life” event at their home. What should I do?

This invitation is most often received by people with friends in the gay community as a invitation to “celebrate life.” Unlike “weddings” or “commitment ceremonies,” these are events that Christians should jump at the chance to attend. Nothing could agree more with our foundational belief in the sanctity of life. So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:27) All life is sacred and deserves to be celebrated. Such an event offers incredible potential for ministry.

Recently, Governor Brown approved a ban on therapy for individuals under the age of 18 with same-gender attraction citing “therapies are too harmful.” Unfortunately, there is no guarantee that social policy is exempt from foolishness. Ultimately, the social pressure that exists to protect “gay” from discrimination has resulted in a tragically dangerous code.

While I personally deplore any and all forms of “gay bashing” and other hate crimes against homosexuals, the extreme medical risks and the fundamental psychological problems often associated with homosexual practice, cannot be undermined or dismissed.

Today, in America, very little is being offered which promotes the truth about homosexuality and the general public is slowly but certainly beginning to believe the many untruths with regard to the topic of homosexuality. This did not happen by accident.

In December 1973, by a narrow vote, homosexuality was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder (DSM) by the American Psychiatric Association. The vote was not based upon scientific research but on political pressure from homosexual activists. So much for an individual’s right of self-determination to address their unwanted homosexual feelings and behavior. In a nutshell, the problem is the politicization of psychiatry, psychology, and most definitely, the Bible, to the extent that the freedom to investigate and treat homosexuality has been and continues to be under serious attack.

During my 17 years yeas as ‘gay,’ I personally witnessed far too many lives devastated and some taking their own lives over the celebration of ‘gay.’ In each and every case the ruin and carnage was not brought about by the individual trying to resolve their same-gender attraction.

Today, in America and around the world, in the name of tolerance, diversity, and equality, often the truth has been and is being suppressed regarding homosexuality. We can and we must reverse the current trend through education and understanding.

Yes, because of very real discrimination, homosexual activists created a brilliant strategic plan to gain across-the-board acceptance. Yet their plan was and is based upon a flawed paradigm to persuade people they were born with same-gender attraction and they cannot change. This strategy has worked. But the biggest losers just may be homosexual men and women who may get everything they think they want, but will they be denied what they truly need?

Ain’t It The Truth!
“Biblical authority is not tyranny: We read, reflect – and reconcile ourselves with Scripture; but we never simply remake it or reject it – if we affirm its authority.” Professor Marion L. Soards

Dear His Way Out Ministries…

Whenever I’m around my daughter, I feel the need to minister to her regarding her poor choices. But I seem to be driving her away. What do you suggest?

If I were a betting person, I’d bet your daughter already knows where you stand on homosexuality. If arguing about this is endangering your relationship with her, please reconsider your definition of “ministering.” Focus on nurturing your relationship instead. Do not make homosexuality the focus of every conversation. If you possibly alienate your daughter, where will she go when she, like the prodigal, comes to her senses? If home hasn’t felt safe, loving, and accepting (not of her same-gender attraction), then that is the last place she’s going to want to return.

Dear His Way Out Ministries…

Our son just told us he is gay. He says he’s finally accepted who he is and that he’s never been happier. Can this be true?

What’s important is how your son views his experience. Here’s why: Society is doing it’s utmost to silence any message of hope regarding change from homosexuality, and the church still is not stepping boldly up to the plate either. Therefore, many men and women struggling with same-gender attraction have been left to fend for themselves.

Ultimately, when repression accompanied by the pain of denial and hiding reach the boiling point with many “coming out,” it is not unusual for the individual to express and buy into a newfound freedom. When an individual (any individual) gives into fulfilling the desires of the flesh, especially not having to hide their sexual desires, they may feel happier than they ever have at any other time in life.

They key for your son is to realize that it is never too late to turn back. This is exactly where the church and you come in. If he hears that change is possible, that he was not made this way, and that he is loved within godly boundary lines, maintain hope that when his feeling of relief wears off and the emptiness sets in, he will try to live his life in line with God’s will. In the meantime, pray that God will protect him.

Caribbean Ministry Map

His Way Out Ministries remains heavily networked with and working in ministry partnership with the Caribbean destinations of Jamaica, Guyana and Trinidad and Tobago. We care deeply about those combating same-gender attraction and it is our collective goal and privilege to share with The Caribbean the transforming power of God’s love and forgiveness without compromising the truth.

We offer the message that there is freedom from homosexuality through the unconditional love and grace of Jesus Christ. If you or someone you care about is struggling with same-gender attraction, we would be honored to hear from you and stand ready to assist you in any way we can. For further information regarding Caribbean ministry, please see the following links:

Jamaica – WIRED Counseling Agency www.wiredjamaica.org
Guyana – Operation Restoration www.hiswayout.com/or
Trinidad/Tobago – God’s Love Brings Transformation www.hiswayout.com/glbt

RR Pursuing Sexual WholenessPursuing Sexual Wholeness by Andrew Comiskey is a book full of practical insights and scriptural support for anyone seeking to understand sexual brokenness and the pursuit of sexual wholeness in Christ. Andy chronicles the events of his departure from the homosexual lifestyle as well as using the examples of others.

Pursuing Sexual Wholeness is available from Desert Stream Bookstore. For more information visit Desert Stream Ministries. And check out the video Hope: Acknowledging Sexual Brokenness by Andy Comiskey on Vimeo.

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Overseas Ministry Partners

Operation Restoration (Guyana, South America)

Operation RestorationDedicated to restoring the values of abstinence, chastity and fidelity, it is the mission of Operation Restoration to equip leaders with the requisite knowledge and skills to impart God’s perspective on human sexuality; and to empower youth, through educational and cultural programs, to become role models in the way they manage their sexuality.

God’s Love Brings Transformation (Trinidad & Tobago)

God's Love Brings TransformationGod’s Love Brings Transformation is dedicated to bringing wholeness through Jesus Christ to women struggling with same-sex attraction! It is our firm belief that only through a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ can individuals find their true identity and begin to have a better understanding of their struggle with same- sex attraction and resolve gender identity concerns.

New Office Location & Contact Information

His Way Out Ministries has relocated to:
10700 Brimhall Road, Bakersfield, CA, USA 93312
See the map on our Contact page.
Our new phone numbers are:
Phone (661) 589-3136 and Fax (661) 589-6210
Our email address has not changed.

Dear His Way Out Ministries…
I work with a guy that’s very ‘out’ about his being gay. I’ve noticed he’s quite a bit more offensive around me than he is with other coworkers. What’s this all about?

Hopefully you are just as ‘out’ about your Christianity as he is about his being gay. If so, he presumes your position on homosexuality. Fearing rejection from you (especially if this has been his experience from other Christians), he is becoming intentionally offensive to protect himself. Respond directly but gently pointing out that he doesn’t seem to act the same with you as with other coworkers. Ask him how you may have offended him unknowingly. This will show how much you value him as a person. If he offers a reply, you might be prepared to ask for forgiveness.

Dear Editor, Bakersfield Californian Newspaper – Community Voices

In response to the article “Lincoln’s anti-slavery ‘evolution’ has modern corollary” dated May 21, 2012.

Apart from the broader goal of legitimizing homosexuality, the alleged aim of all “gay rights” initiatives, is to protect homosexuals from discrimination based solely on their “sexual orientation.” Too often, “gay rights’ are presented and promoted as an issue of civil rights with the gay community likening themselves to African-Americans or other minorities who have suffered under discriminatory laws and social policies. Is such an argument and analogy really justified? Have homosexuals really been the object of prejudice and discrimination in the same way as African-Americans?

The color of one’ skin is not a matter of choice; that is genetically determined. However, homosexual behavior is not genetically determined. Therefore, it is one thing to say that we believe in civil rights for all regardless of one’s skin color. It is quite another matter to say that we believe in civil rights for all regardless of one’s behavior.

Homosexuals frequently speak of themselves as if their being “gay” is fundamental to who they are as persons and as a community. Ultimately, they are in effect defining themselves by their gayness. As a result they set themselves off as a separate class, a group needing, if not demanding, special attention and deference.

Are we as a society really being asked to connect and equate ‘civil rights’ and homosexual rights as the same? As a member of the gay community for 17 years, I was never denied the right to vote, own property, or attend the college or university of my choice. History clearly dictates and reflects that African-Americans cannot say the same. Therefore, comparing homosexual rights to the civil rights of African-Americans is shallow and ultimately insulting. Homosexuals, as a class, have not suffered discrimination as African-Americans.

The attempt to blur the lines that homosexual practice is clearly about morals by comparing a ‘behavior’ to an issue of civil rights is dishonest and misleading. A significant number of homosexuals do not suffer from economic or other key forms of discrimination as do African-Americans.

As citizens of the United States, homosexuals have all the afforded rights extended to every citizen. These fundamental rights include: the right to vote, the First Amendment rights of free speech, freedom of the press, freedom of assembly, freedom of petition, and freedom of religion.

Ultimately, there is no socially compelling reason to grant special status to homosexuals and there should be no comparison to the history and present day of African-Americans.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

On June 6, 2012, Pastor Phillip will be returning to the Caribbean – specifically, Guyana and Trinidad and Tobago. His Way Out Ministries continues a ministry partnership with Operation Restoration (Guyana), Hospital Christian Fellowship and God’s Love Brings Transformation (Trinidad and Tobago) for the purpose and focus of raising awareness, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to minister to those with unwanted same-gender attraction. Numerous trainings, media events, sharing testimony in churches, and meetings with dignitaries of both nations have been scheduled.

His Way Out Ministries, Hospital Christian Fellowship, God’s Love Brings Transformation and Operation Restoration believes that all persons need the ministry of the Church in their struggle for sexual wholeness, and we commit ourselves to that end. We do not condone the practice of homosexuality and consider such incompatible with Christian teaching and conduct. We believe that through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the healing power of the Holy Spirit, often mediated by extended and competent ministry, prayer, and a caring Christian community, the sexually broken can experience transformation and restoration towards wholeness.

His Way Out Ministries, Hospital Christian Fellowship, Operation Restoration and God’s Love Brings Transformation repudiates any non-loving, prejudicial attitudes that deny Christ’s unconditional love for all people and declare such to be sin. Our ministry partnership offers and extends a compassionate Christian ministry for such persons.

Pastor Phillip will be in Guyana and Trinidad and Tobago beginning June 6th and ultimately returning to office on July 2nd.

UPDATE JUNE 1, 2012: Postponed

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