• You told me I needed to surrender my life to Christ Jesus and be born-again. I surrendered.

• You told me I needed to forsake and repent of homosexual practice. I repented. I turned away.

• You told me my mind needed renewing and I needed a life transformation. I willing died to self.

• You told me I needed to forsake the gay community and embrace the Church as my new family. I did so by faith.

• You regularly encouraged me to share my testimony. I gladly did so to honor Christ Jesus.

• You continue to remind me the Church is God’s vehicle to reach the wounded, broken and hurting. I agree.

• You told me the Bible is the textbook for life in all matters of faith and practice. I embraced this truth.

• You reminded me over and over again “Jesus remains the same yesterday, today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8) Indeed and Amen.

But now, some of you are saying, per your new stance that your understanding of homosexuality is “evolving” – “Well, maybe homosexuality isn’t so bad after all.”

Many Sunday morning church pulpits have lapsed fully into the silent-mode with regard to homosexuality which has and is perpetuating a tsunami of immorality.

The gay community is extremely vocal and highly visible demanding their right to be who they want to be, but I am now being told daily I cannot have and I must now have the same right.

I am trying very, very hard to understand. Would you help me, please?

Much too often, I turn around wondering, “Where did everybody go?”

Having once faced and addressed the impact of rejection and abandonment in my life, must I face it again?

Should we compare where we stand now regarding homosexuality and related issues to the time when things got very, very tough and Jesus said to His disciples, “Will you also turn away?” (John 6:67)

You told me and reminded me frequently…

“The Church must call homosexual practice sin and while that will be offensive too many, the Word of God must not and cannot be watered down.”

In many respects, I attribute my new life in Christ Jesus of 41 years to Christians sharing and holding me to The Truth.

• You told me I was not born gay. I embraced this truth.

• You told me change is possible. I changed.

• You told me our true identity is in Christ Jesus – not our sexuality. True.

• You told me not to allow my past to dictate who I am in Christ today. Agreed.

• You told me homosexuals are redeemable with God’s grace and power more than sufficient to transform a life. Amen.

• You told me sharing the Gospel is not an option for a Christian but rather obedience to a command. Absolutely.

• You told me the only way out of homosexuality was through a deep, personal, intimate relationship with Christ Jesus.

Has any of the above mentioned changed?

If, yes, to any of the above mentioned, “Jesus I know, and Paul I know, but who are you?” (Acts 19:15)

Truth lived out Christ’s way, does not have any gray edges. It is abundantly clear and straight forward.

In Christ,

Phillip, just one of the many prodigals.

“And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into His likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” (2 Corinthians 3:18)

Respectfully, truth, God’s truth does not change just because you did.

“We demand freedom from social restraint and independence from any and all moral order.”

“Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness.” (Isaiah 5:20)

Today, especially in America, little is being offered which promotes the truth about homosexuality with the general public and the Church believing the many untruths and inaccuracies being offered.

This did not happen by accident. This has been and continues to be a well-crafted strategic plan.

The first step in Satan’s deception is to get you to doubt what God said.

God’s Word has always been love speech toward us. The devil is the one who uses hate speech. The devil hates God, so he hates what God loves most…you!

Phase One: Get society and the Church to ‘accept’ the falsehood that someone can be a gay Christian (it’s ok to practice homosexuality) which then set the stage for the transition to Phase Two.

Phase Two: Revise Scripture to endorse and validate the homosexual disposition and agenda.

Hence, pro-gay theology: “the abandonment of Scriptural truth; scientific information, social changes, and personal experience becomes the cornerstone of how ‘truth’ is determined.”

For homosexual practice to be seen as acceptable and created by God, historic and traditional Christian teaching had to be discredited.

Phase Three: Since it’s ok to be a gay Christian (according to pro-gay theology), then God Himself supports, approves and validates homosexuality and same-sex marriage.

Herein lies the true problem: a crisis of truth.

No where in the Bible does any Scripture, not one, approve of or support the notion or concept of gay Christian or same-sex relationships. Every time Scripture mentions homosexual practice it is always, without exception, mentioned in the context of a behavior in which no man or woman is to practice – not unlike many other behaviors.

The Church cannot ‘welcome and affirm’ what God Himself never affirms. Yes, Jesus welcomed and loved every person but He never, ever affirmed their sin – not once.

That said, permit me to take this another direction for a moment.

It is long overdue for many, including homosexual strugglers, to stop singling out homosexuality as the worst of all sins.

Today, many view the person engaged in homosexual acts to be unsaved. Why are not the same assumptions made, at least with the same rigor and emphasis, regarding other sins such as: fornication (pre-marital sex), idolatry, adultery, thievery, covetousness, alcoholism, slander, and deceit. An end must come to declaring those guilty of pre-marital sex as just, well, “disobedient Christians,” while declaring homosexuals definitely non-Christians.

As Christians, our relationship with God through Christ is the cornerstone of our identity.

Today, many are being told, “Accept yourself and follow your heart.”

However, Jesus says, “Deny yourself and follow Me.”

“By this we know that we have come to know Him, if we keep His commandments. The one who says, ‘I have come to know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him; but whoever keeps His word, in him the love of God has truly been perfected. By this we know that we are in Him; the one who says he abides in Him ought himself to walk in the same manner as He walked.” (1 John 2:3-6)

You don’t have to give up your intellect to trust the Bible. You have to give up your pride.

No one hates the LGBT community and all humanity more than the devil.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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Pro-gay ideology (pride) and Biblical teaching conflict and they always will because…

Pro-gay ideology has been, is now, and shall remain an assault on the integrity and authority of Scripture. Ultimately, pro-gay ideology puts man in the position of determining what is true “in the Bible.”

Gay activists, despite their profession of ‘tolerance,’ have proven over and over again to be quite intolerant of those who, out of deeply held moral and religious convictions, cannot and will not condone same sex practice.

The created order of human sexuality (clearly defined in Genesis 2:24) calls for human sexuality to be exclusively expressed within the bonds of heterosexual, lifelong, monogamous marriage.

Pro-gay ideology wants the Church to reject this ethic as the “absolute guiding standard of sexual behavior.”

“The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul; The testimony of the Lord is sure making wise the simple; The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; The commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes; The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever; The judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than gold, Yea, than much fine gold; Sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. Moreover, by them Your servant is warned, and in keeping them there is great reward” (Psalm 19:7-11).

Ultimately, pro-gay ideology would have us believe that Biblical truths, principles and teachings regarding same sex practice should be subject to the review of one’s own conscience.

Translation?

The elevation of man over God and His Word. Man becomes the greater authority.

Today, churches are all over the map on the topic with some continuing to gather as though nothing has happened or is happening.

Admittedly, a church is a family, with all of its diversity, and no two churches in the world are exactly the same. In general, when faced with the subject of homosexuality, many churches (based upon my personal travels and experience) seem to fall into various and very different categories.

Welcoming and Affirming Churches

A church that holds the belief that homosexuality is inborn, men and women cannot change, homosexuality is a gift from God and has the blessings of Christianity.

Fearful Churches

Feeling stuck in the middle of the battle and too afraid to speak about it and all too often overly concerned about hurting someone’s feelings.

Gay Bashing Churches

A church that vehemently condemns the practice of homosexuality in such a way that gay-identified men and women do not feel welcome, even as a visitor. A lot of law and very little grace.

Silent Churches

Often, a church choosing to remain silent because they find the whole matter irrelevant to their lives. A church in need of a fresh dose of God’s Spirit.

A Church Still Sold Out to God’s Way (Godly Passion)

A church that still embraces the Lordship of Christ and The Authority of Scripture. Dedicated to offering and providing ministry that will have an impact on their community and world.

The Church remains God’s vehicle to reach wounded, broken, hurting humanity which is why God has anointed His Church and continues to build His Church.

The Church cannot and The Church must not underestimate itself because it holds the only answer there is to the difficult topic of same sex practice and related issues.

“The people who know their God will be strong and take action” (Daniel 11:32)

It is imperative The Church remain faithful to Biblical truth.

“And that is what some of you were (fornicators, idolaters, adulterers, homosexual offenders). But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the Name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

Please, preach, teach, share, speak Biblical truth not culture.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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Back in California safe ‘n sound from Israel.

Many, many thanks to so many that upheld us and our outreach in Israel in prayer. Your prayers produced safe passage to and from and enabled Jesus to receive major airtime in Israel.

Now it is time to ponder and pray…”Where do we go from here, Lord?”

Photo: Beautiful coastline of Tel Aviv, Israel, which was the focal point of the Gay Pride Parade 2026 in Tel Aviv.

The encouragement and message of His Way Out Ministries in Israel and to the Body of Christ around the world remains the same.

“If we are not educating and equipping the Church with practical tools to be more effective in reaching those with unwanted same-sex attraction and offering ministry to those with unwanted same-sex attraction, we are not fulfilling The Great Commission.”

There is no doubt, there is no question any concerned individual who truly cares about people and – not just the issue of homosexuality – by becoming educated on the subject of homosexuality becomes more than able to introduce the ministry of transformation to an individual, a family, a congregation.

We, the Church, must be a witness to society that we are educated on the brokenness of same-sex attraction and we can also discuss and even debate this issue in love, so that the Church will be a model for reconciliation with God and with others.

We must affirm the biblical position that God loves all people, that homosexual practice is one sin among many and that the Holy Spirit is available to transform all persons – including homosexual persons.

We must minister to persons struggling with homosexuality, their families and all others affected by homosexuality as partners in Christ’s work of healing while integrating all persons striving to live as faithful disciples of Jesus Christ into full membership in the local church.

While we, in and of ourselves cannot promise healing to any person, even though we are convinced that God can and does heal many, we must continue to see the Body of Christ as the primary agent for any and all transformation.

The ministry of hope, healing, wholeness and transformation takes place in the Body of Christ, The Church.

It is imperative the Body of Christ stand against current trends in today’s society that have and continue to distort human sexuality as God intended and created it.

In the end, we will be successful by extending a ministry solution.

We are individually and collectively part of God’s plan by offering the ministry of transformation and humbly realizing God has called us to partner with Him in His plan.

“…where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty” (2 Corinthians 3:17).

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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Awesome time of sharing the gospel and testimony at the Tel Aviv, Israel Gay Pride Parade on June 12, 2026.

He said to them, “Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.” – Mark 16:15

Our mission was to reach people’s hearts with a simple message:

“Jesus Christ, fully man and fully God, lived a perfect life no one else could. He willingly went to the cross, died, was buried, and was resurrected, offering eternal life to all who believe in Him.”

Led by God in our conversations, we prayed for numerous people, and many approached us to ask questions as to why we were there.

Responses varied—some were open and kind, while others reacted with anger or hostility.

Despite this, our mission was accomplished.

Don’t you know my personal sharing with young men, “I was once a member of the LGBTQ community,” was each time met with, “What do you mean you once were?” sparked great conversation and debate.

No doubt each team member will be talking about and sharing details of our outreach to the LGBTQ community for a long time to come.

And, as the saying goes, “Often a picture is worth a thousand words.”

Have we surrendered Biblical conviction to cultural approval?

Video discussion includes: What is the real crisis?, Scripturally speaking, what do we know about homosexuality? Doesn’t the Church have a divine mandate to at times be controversial for the sake of truth? Where did we get the idea God’s Word conforms to culture? Is there a difference between the term’s “homosexual” and “gay”? Are Christian leaders avoiding the concept and promotion of objective biblical truth?

Fidelity to truth, both in doctrine and behavior, is no more optional to a healthy church than food and water are to a healthy body.

How can you say you love people while allowing them to compromise in a life of sexual sin, unchallenged? You can’t!

No One Is Doomed to Be Gay — There Is a Way Out
Brandon Holthaus & Phillip Lee
Youtube Link

When faced with the subject of homosexuality, are you…

Gay affirming, fearful, gay bashing, complacent and apathetic, sold out to Christ’s way?

For many, homosexuality isn’t just a societal issue – it’s very personal. A son or daughter reveals a long-standing struggle with same-sex attraction, a husband leaves his wife for another man, a co-worker shows up at the office party with her female lover. In each and every case there are questions we want to ask and discuss but often very reluctant to voice.

Why bother discussing homosexuality from a Biblical standpoint?

The answer just may lie in whatever may motivate you to attend Straight Talk.

Christian Leader: You may simply want (need) a better working knowledge of the topic.

Parent or Friend: Someone you love might be same-sex attracted and you’re wondering, as a Bible-believing Christian, how you can keep a relationship with this person without compromising your deeply held beliefs and convictions.

Educator: What causes homosexuality? Is it immutable or changeable? As an educator you are wanting a better understanding and grasp on the academic questions the subject raises.

Counselor: Maybe you are looking for insights, for when your client says, “I’m gay.”

Same-Sex Attracted Christian: Maybe you are in the midst of feelings, emotions and attractions you neither desire nor chose, wondering what, if anything, you can do.

Concerned Christian: You may need a better understanding of the Biblical perspective on homosexuality so you can persuasively articulate it.

Seekers: Those seeking a reasonable, clear, and respectful understanding of why faithful followers of Christ Jesus believe what they do about homosexuality.

Whether Christian or not, anyone seeking truth, God’s absolute truth regarding homosexuality, must turn to the Holy Scriptures.

Straight Talk seeks to turn controversy into ministry because those who live by truth engage in the ongoing challenge of applying God’s unchanging standards to our ever-changing culture and world.

Truth is and it matters because it defines God’s nature.

God has revealed His truth and has commissioned His Church to reveal it in turn, through preaching, teaching, and disciple-making.

The Church must speak clear truth regarding God’s divine intent for human sexuality.

Spiritual growth requires understanding about the struggle between the flesh and the spirit. (Galatians 5:16-25)

“Sanctify the Lord God in your hearts,” the apostle Peter admonished. “And always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.” (1 Peter 3:15)

“Straight Talk” meets faithfully at 8:00am the 1st Sunday of each month at Rock Harbor Church: https://rockharborchurch.net/

Our next meeting will be Sunday, June 7, 2026.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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“No one chooses to be gay.”

I have heard and continue to hear the above-mentioned statement on a frequent basis. Each and every time, I wonder – “Do they really understand what they are stating?”

The statement, I believe, needs some fleshing-out and clarification because it is often completely misunderstood and misused.

At the age of 13 years old, I became acutely aware of my same-sex attraction. However, it was not until many, many years later I embraced, decided, and clothed myself in what many refer to as “the gay identity.”

Let me say it this way – “Homosexual tendencies are discovered but the gay-identity is chosen and decided upon.”

The two are worlds apart and dramatically different.

Once gay-identified men and women that now have new lives in Christ know exactly what I am talking about.

Forty-one years ago, surrendering my life (which included my sexuality to Christ Jesus), in church for the first time in my life and constantly having my nose buried in God’s Word, homosexual practice no longer was an option and utimately no longer desirous.

But, what to do about the gay-identity factor?

“You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; and to be made new in the attitude of your mind” (Ephesians 4:22-24).

“And this is what some of you were” (1 Corinthians 6:11).

Once again, a choice was before me.

Would I continue to allow feelings, emotions and personal experience dictate my identity or embrace the Lordship of Christ and the Authority of Scripture to define my true identity?

Well, here we are 41 years down the road, and I have never, ever regretted my decision to follow Christ and the truth of whom He says I am.

One encounter with God changed everything.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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Believers in Christ Jesus who experience and war against same-sex attraction do exist, but Scripture never has, nor will Scripture ever call an individual to identify by or with a sinful sexual tendency.

ANY word placed in front of my purchased identity as a beloved son of the King of Kings should never be considered or viewed as anything other than the very worst form of idolatry.

Speaking as one once ensnared and bound by the incompleteness and derailment of same-sex attraction, try and try as I have to get my head, heart, and spirit fully around the statement, “I am a gay Christian” I cannot.

I cannot because it does not make sense.

If, within the statement, one is saying, “I am a Christian that struggles with the temptation of same-sex attraction.” This makes sense and I understand.

However, for a faithful follower of Christ Jesus to pronounce identity by first using ‘gay’ (based on one’s attraction to the same sex) then follow-up with ‘Christian’ – clearly, what is happening is a lack of conviction, practice, and concern of how one is being shaped and led by a wrong and deceiving spirit.

If I were an individual self-identifying as a ‘gay Christian,’ I would at some point in all honesty and truth need to truly face myself and ask…

“Which am I more? Am I more gay than a Christian?”

One of the earmarks of liberal Christianity regarding homosexuality, is the rejection of the infallibility of God’s Word and the quest, if not determination, to find Scriptural acceptance (a canon) within the canon (Scripture) to validate, accept, and endorse homosexual practice. Hence, enter pro-gay theology.

In all fairness, my considerable concern for many men and women today struggling, combating the unwanted brokenness of same-sex attraction is…

How are they to follow the Holy Spirit when much of what God has to say regarding homosexual practice is being dismissed, disregarded and withheld? How are they to hear His voice when His words are being silenced?

Is it possible far too much of the Church is now relying on (feelings) which are very, very often completely disconnected from what the Bible says?

I have shared before it was Christians that held me to the truth and authority of Scripture throughout my discipleship. Admittedly, it was not always an easy road to travel. However, I understood they were holding me accountable because they truly had my best interest at heart. Thank God they never once lowered the bar on the truth of Scripture.

Here is a frightening reality I continue to ponder from time to time.

If God’s truth had been withheld from me, what would I have been left with?

My walk, your walk with God is not about personal sensibilities. The gay Christian identity does not exist in the Kingdom of God. There is a much, much better way.

It isn’t new. It isn’t even really profound. It is the willingness and posture to let Scripture have its unhindered way.

Most assuredly, humility (how we approach and receive the truth of God’s Word), is the ingredient necessary for transformation enabling you and I to give way to God’s Word, even when it is unpopular.

“O God, make me know your ways. Teach me your paths. Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation, and for you I wait all the day long.” (Psalm 25:4-5)

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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Usually, when homosexuality becomes known in a family, the greater attention and focus is normally placed on the individual that has announced his or her being gay.

However, when homosexuality comes a knocking on your personal front door, it affects much more than just him or her. Immediately, the crisis becomes a family matter with the family having to work through the blow of learning of a child’s homosexuality.

For Christian parents becoming aware of a child’s homosexuality, it becomes very tempting to respond with “How can you be homosexual? You’re a Christian!”

Parents become immediately flooded with questions such as: What will people think? What did I do wrong? or How are we are going to deal with this?

Without a doubt, it is just as difficult for the individual to disclose their battle with same-gender attraction as it is for the family to hear. In the majority of cases, the individual struggling with same-gender attraction has been in an intense battle for a very long time especially if the individual is an adult.

The very moment the admission comes out of the individual’s mouth, all of the anxiety, turmoil, fear, shame, anger, disillusionment and more, is immediately transferred to the parents (family).

Parents naturally want to protect their children and rightfully feel a huge amount of responsibility for their lives. As a result, it is absolutely imperative that Christian parents establish boundaries when facing and dealing with a child’s acceptance and practice of homosexuality.

In their book Boundaries, Dr’s. Henry Cloud and John Townsend describe boundaries as “what defines what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership.”

Without a doubt, parents experience a huge amount of loss when they find out about a child’s homosexuality. Almost immediately, grief, despair, disillusionment and fear surface launching parents into a process where they ultimately must give themselves permission to grieve and not pretend that nothing is wrong or that their world has been turned upside-down.

Every year, I receive numerous inquiries for guidance from parents wanting to know what some of the do’s and don’ts are when addressing same-sex attraction.

Parents in particular become overwhelmed with the various looming scenarios related to a gay identified child. The line(s) between acceptance and approval, love and condoning a sinful behavior can often become a bit blurry and challenging.

Anita Worthen discusses the issue of inviting a child’s partner into your home in her book Someone I Love is Gay. “Your child’s partner is not the enemy. He or she is someone God loves – just as he loves your son or daughter.” However, that doesn’t mean you welcome the couple into your home as if nothing was wrong. Ignoring the obvious has a name – denial.

A good rule of thumb in ultimately coming to a decision of how to handle the situation is to ask, “How would I handle it if my child wanted to bring home an opposite-sex partner?”

I believe the majority of Christian families would probably invite that person into their home, but clearly define the appropriate boundary line of separate sleeping arrangements. However, if parents are completely uncomfortable with the entire gay scenario, being honest is the very best policy for all involved.

Because each family is unique, each family has to find a way to handle the various situations that will undoubtedly surface. There isn’t one universal answer that works for everyone.

Frankly, there aren’t any easy, pat answers for a family working through the awareness of a child’s homosexuality. There are no magic cures, no shortcuts. However, God is more than able and willing to bring the entire family into a deeper, more intimate relationship with Him since the family, by God’s own design, was designed to be a support system and a place of love and safety.

Ultimately, only through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the indwelling presence of His Spirit, will any individual or family be enabled to overcome homosexuality and the many related issues.

Being a very practical individual, I encourage all parents (families) to consider that the crisis does not rest solely with the homosexual child. Within the mix of the various and numerous contributing factors to any individual struggling with same-gender attraction are family and relational issues the enabled the situation.

Therefore, I believe parents, the family, need to be willing to (1) educate themselves on the homosexual behavior, (2) seek spiritual guidance for themselves, certainly their feelings and emotions, (3) be patient in embracing the reality that healing is a process and (4) release the child into the God’s care. Admittedly, the last point is much easier said than done.

However, it is when we let go of a child, a friend, or a spouse that we do stop taking responsibility for them, but we do not stop fulfilling our responsibilities to them.

Homosexuality is not just about an issue. This is about people – people that God loves and people for whom Jesus died.

When homosexuality surfaces in a family, it isn’t just a child struggling with same-gender attraction; it is a family issue and needs to be healed within the family.

“The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.” Psalm 9:9

Recommended Reading

Someone I Love is Gay by Anita Worthen and Bob Davies
This book gives easy to understand answers to the family members surrounding the homosexual. Many real-life examples are cited to help families understand and respond to their homosexual loved one in a compassionate way.

101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality by Mike Haley
In this book you will find answers to the most often asked questions about homosexuality from an expert on the subject – and a former homosexual himself.

When Homosexuality Hits Home by Joe Dallas
In this straightforward book, Christian author and counselor Joe Dallas offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to deal with the many conflicts and emotions experienced by parents, grandparents, siblings, and extended family members when they learn of a loved one’s homosexuality.

For additional Recommended Reading, please visit…
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Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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