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I have been very fortunate to have met many men and women who have emerged from homosexuality.

When I view the personal difficulties they have had to face, the incredible courage they have displayed not only in facing many difficulties, but also in confronting a culture that uses every opportunity to deny the validity of their values, goals, and experiences, I stand back in awe. It is these men and women, the formerly LGBT identified and those still struggling, who present a model of everything good and possible.

Frankly, the battle that continues to rage is not over just a person’s sexuality, but rather over which spirit will claim that person’s allegiance. The cultural and political battle over homosexuality has become, in many respects, the defining moment for our society.

And the battle rages over much more than just “gay rights.” The more important aspect of this battle is not the political one, it is the one for the individual human soul.

In his book, Eros Defiled, John While writes, “We are all playing Christian club games while men and women around us are tormented by sin, too timid to bare their bosoms, too ashamed to ask our help.”

The Church’s response to the man or woman combating unwanted same-sex attraction will largely determine if he or she will keep fighting. All the counseling, support groups, curriculum, etc. in the world will be in vain if he doesn’t have a church to love him, support him, and relate to him.

When we preach or teach against the evil of a lifestyle or activity, we should also be seeking alternatives to offer in place of the thing we are condemning. A willingness to be involved in the lives of those struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction is the starting point from which solid, successful ministry to them can develop.

“Love, and the unity it attests to, is the mark Christ gave Christians to wear before the world. Only with this mark may the world know that Christians are indeed Christians and that Jesus was sent by the Father.” – Francis Schaeffer

We do not have to respond to every feeling or emotion that comes along. God gave us a mind and the inner witness of the Holy Spirit to guide us into all truth.

Experience must always be subservient to the principles outlined in God’s Word.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our fourteenth broadcast is titled “Questions and Answers”. For many, homosexuality isn’t just a social issue, it’s very personal. Our “Questions and Answers” broadcast offers straightforward, godly, and compassionate insights into the subject of homosexuality by providing a series of questions that many want to ask but are often reluctant to voice.

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This is an outstanding presentation and clarification from friends and ministry colleagues at Coming Out Ministries called Conversion/Reparative Therapy?

During the 25-year history of His Way Out Ministries, we have never employed nor do we now utilize Reparative or Conversion Therapy.

His Way Out Ministries takes our mandate and calling from Jesus Himself, “Go therefore and make disciples…” (Matthew 28:19)

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our thirteenth broadcast is titled “How Do We Love Them Like Jesus?” The Gospel of John is clear in its description of Jesus. Jesus was 100% grace and 100% truth. He never erred on one side or the other. If we are truly to represent Christ’s heart and mind to the sexually broken, we must be equally balanced in those two critical areas as well.

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How Do We Love Them Like Jesus? with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

When homosexuality or transgenderism hits home, families are generally caught off guard; they’re typically unsure about how to deal with their grief.

Living Stones Ministries is offering a Walk by Faith Conference to not only minister to and equip those directly affected families, but also to offer workshops to equip family friends and pastoral care helpers. Walk by Faith offers some of the best and most experienced teachers on the topics of sexual and relational brokenness. We sincerely pray this conference will not only bless you but also equip you and strengthen your faith in God.

Speakers include: Joe Dallas, Carol Wagstaff-Groen, Phillip Lee, and Sherry Holt
Saturday March 21, 2020, 8:00am to 4:30pm

Joe Dallas – Answering Pro-Gay Theology
Denise Shick – Transgender-A Faith Based Perspective
Phillip Lee – Homosexuality and the Reality of Change
Phillip Lee – Reaching Gay Youth
Carol Wagstaff – Unwavering Faith in the Turbulence of Sexual Brokenness
Sherry Holt – Healing for the Wounded Soul

More details: www.restoredhopenetwork.org

Register: www.eventbrite.com

Homosexuality: Whatever Happened to Truth?

Why bother discussing homosexuality from a Biblical standpoint? The answer just may lie in whatever may motivate you to attend Straight Talk.

Christian Leader: You may simply want (need) a better working knowledge of the topic.

Parent or Friend: Someone you love might be same-sex attracted and you’re wondering, as a Bible-believing Christian, how you can keep a relationship with this person without compromising your deeply held beliefs and convictions.

Educator: What causes homosexuality? Is it immutable or changeable? As an educator you are wanting a better understanding and grasp on the academic questions the subject raises.

Counselor: Maybe you are looking for insights, for when your client says, “I’m gay.”

Same-Sex Attracted Christian: Maybe you are in the midst of feelings, emotions and attractions you neither desire nor chose, wondering what, if anything, you can do.

Concerned Christian: You may need a better understanding of the Biblical perspective on homosexuality so you can persuasively articulate it.

Seekers: Those seeking a reasonable, clear, and respectful understanding of why faithful followers of Christ Jesus believe what they do about homosexuality.

Whether Christian or not, anyone seeking truth, God’s absolute truth regarding homosexuality, must turn to the Holy Scriptures.

Straight Talk seeks to turn controversy into ministry because those who live by truth engage in the ongoing challenge of applying God’s unchanging standards to our ever-changing culture and world.

  • Truth is and it matters because it defines God’s nature.
  • God has revealed His truth and has commissioned His Church to reveal it in turn, through preaching, teaching, and disciple-making.
  • The Church must speak clear truth regarding God’s divine intent for human sexuality.
  • Spiritual growth requires understanding about the struggle between the flesh and the spirit. (Galatians 5:16-25)

“Sanctify the Lord God in your hearts,” the apostle Peter admonished. “And always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.” (1 Peter 3:15)

Straight Talk meets on the 1st Saturday of each month at the His Way Out Ministries Office.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our twelfth broadcast is titled “Letting Go”. As Christians, a huge challenge is giving our loved one over to the Lord. If our prayers go something like, “God, do this,” or “God, don’t allow this,” our prayers need to become, “Lord, I ask you to bring my loved one to You in any way You choose.” Letting go goes against our very nature. However, if we want God to work in the situation, we must let Him do it His way.

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“When we have children, we release hostages to fate.” – John F. Kennedy

Last night, I spent the evening with approximately 20 parents, Christian parents with gay-identified children. When the meeting concluded and I arrived back home, my mind continued to revisit and process the many things shared.

A common thread that frequently surfaced during the meeting was distinguishing between “acceptance and approval.”

Loving a wayward child the way God loves them means loving them unconditionally. It also means accepting the truth and reality that only God can bring about the change in them you hope and pray to witness.

It wasn’t until many years down the road of a new life in Christ Jesus that my mother shared with me, “You don’t know how many times in prayer I got in the enemy’s face and said ‘I don’t care what he has done or even how many times he has done it, in Jesus’ Name, devil, you can’t have him any more!’”

Choosing to “act” rather than “react” to the unwanted circumstance(s) that have come into your life is a healthy first-step forward. Seek a care group, a community in which you can be real by sharing your legitimate concerns. Those in the group need not be experts on the subject of homosexuality and they may not have ever experienced this kind of crisis themselves, but if they are compassionate people, they can give you a great deal of emotional support and nurturing.

Scripture clearly defines the Church as family. (1 Timothy 5:1-2; 2 Timothy 1:2-5; Hebrews 12:7-10). Having a safe environment and opportunity to be transparent with one another enables opportunity to unlock the excessive pressures of this journey called life and relieves pent-up emotions.

Keep Romans 8:28 forever in your heart. God’s promise that, “all things work together for good,” even when things seem to be shattered should take a high position on the priority list of verses on suffering.

At His Way Out Ministries, we have found and continue to see and understand the wisdom of Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he is in trouble.”

Our Part: As faithful followers of Christ Jesus, our part is to respond with godly love, understanding, patience and to clearly define the difference between acceptance and approval.

As Christians, we accept all people but that does mean we approve of how they may be living.

God’s Part: To give strugglers an abhorrence for the behavior that will bring them to a place of complete surrender to the sovereignty of God in their lives, and a desire to change.

God loves to walk in and turn things around. He loves to do what looks humanly impossible.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our eleventh broadcast is titled “Now, It’s Personal!” Christians with gay-identified loved ones are often eager to share the Good News of Christ, but they wonder how they can do so without sounding judgmental. When someone you love is homosexual, you quickly become aware of your inability to face life’s challenges apart from the grace of God.

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It’s a fact that much of modern society is preoccupied, if not consumed by sex. Today, many Christian men and women are highly disturbed by their sexual feelings. For some, sexual obsession has become a form of worship. Anytime we give our hearts, minds and bodies over to remain in a state of sexual arousal, we are indeed doing exactly what the Apostle Paul talks about when he refers to worshipping created things rather than the Creator.

“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is forever praised. Amen.” (Romans 1:24-25)

As the prophet asked in Ezekiel 33:10; “How should we then live?” in a society that is so permeated by sex that even the most dedicated Christian is affected? More specifically, how does a Christian man or woman face and deal with sexual temptations – whether gay or straight?

First, we must understand and believe the clarity of Scripture that Jesus, our Savior and High Priest was tempted Himself and understands our temptation. Please embrace and take comfort in Hebrews 4:14-16:

“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

It is a fact that God knows our struggles, understands and forgives our failures. More than not, the questions most people face when confronted with temptation is not “Does God care?” but “Do I care?” Clearly, within Scripture God has made an abundance of resources available to us that we are sometimes unwilling to employ. Therefore, let’s be honest. We sin because we choose to sin rather than because we are left without resources by a God who doesn’t care.

According to the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 10:13; “No temptation has seized us except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” Clearly, when we choose to ignore the resources offered to us by God, we fail.

Regularly, I receive invitations to speak and teach on the topic of same-gender attraction. Every now and then, I am challenged by someone that feels I should not speak so frankly and openly about homosexuality. The view, by some, is that by making people aware I may be encouraging them to participate. I do listen, even trying to take them seriously due to their usage of the following:

“The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” (Romans 13:12-14)

While I do respect their opinion, I still believe we must know the enemy and understand both the subtle and the obvious ways he tries to affect us. Making people aware of dangers is not the same as thinking about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.

So, what do you and I do when we fail? Ultimately, it’s pretty easy to keep the right focus and attitude when sexual temptations have been resisted successfully. However, when any man or woman has given into sexual temptation, “What’s the use?” is all too common to surface. “I’ve blown it and so I just might as well do some other things also” is anything but the thought, attitude or approach recommended by Jesus. I guarantee you that in adopting or embracing these mentioned thoughts or actions will only lead to deep guilt as well as continued sexual frustration and spiritual frustration also.

When Jesus confronted individuals who had sinned and who were truly repentant, His response was always the same. He forgave the sin but also challenged the person to forsake it and begin living a better way. Once our sin has been admitted and we see our sin as God sees it, it is imperative we place our full attention and focus on our Savior and no longer upon our sin. Do not remain in a mode of mentally replaying your sin. That, in and of itself, can become an obsession.

When we are purposed to keep our eyes on Jesus, we see victory. This absolutely gives us hope. However, when we continue to fix our eyes on our recurring brokenness or sin, we will see only defeat which can easily transcend to becoming ashamed even to look at Jesus. We must keep our focus and attention on our source of hope rather than that which is broken. That is exactly why a regular time of reading Scripture and praying is essential. It puts our attention on Christ where it belongs. One more time – look at the Savior, not at the sin.

I really believe that any discussion about sexual temptation would be incomplete without a look at the way David dealt with his own sin. David was brutally honest with God, which just may be why, despite his sin, he was called a man after God’s own heart. In Psalm 51:5-12 he writes:

“Surely I have been a sinner from birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me. Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place. Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of our salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”

There is a way out. God is good!

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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