After you and I have sung the songs and worshipped at Christmas, and after we have thought again of the true meaning of Christmas, is it possible that we can go back with indifference to life not changed at all? Or will this Christmas possibly burn a new fire and a new hope into our hearts and spirits?

Today, the need for solid, trustworthy Christian leaders has never been greater. Leaders who are willing to take the narrow way that confronts in love and willing to take the risk of being misunderstood and rejected. Today, the Church is in need of leaders whose goal is God’s will rather than man’s and leaders willing to stand in the gap in this troubled age.

Many are rejecting the God of the Bible, calling everything biblical a myth and leading people away from the truth and authority of Scripture while believing they are doing a good thing. Church history clearly dictates the Church has always been challenged to respond to issues of its time. I am convinced God is calling His Church to recommit to biblical standards of holiness.

The silence, disregard and the compromise of the Holy Scriptures with regard to homosexual practice has and is placing God’s Church in a place of abdicating our moral authority to speak to this issue.

Once…

You told me I needed to surrender my life to Christ Jesus and be born-again. I surrendered.

You told me I needed to forsake and repent of homosexual practice. I repented. I turned away.

You told me my mind needed renewing and I needed a life transformation. I willing died to self.

You told me I needed to forsake the gay community and embrace the Church as my new family. I did so by faith.

You regularly encouraged me to share my testimony. I gladly did so to honor Christ Jesus.

You continue to remind me the Church is God’s vehicle to reach the wounded and hurting. I agree.

You told me the Bible is the textbook for life in all matters of faith and practice. I embraced this truth.

You reminded me over and over again, “Jesus remains the same yesterday, today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8). Indeed and Amen.

The Gospel must be the priority, for the homosexual – just as it must be for us all.

But now, some of you are saying, “Well, maybe homosexuality isn’t so bad after all.” Many of you have lapsed fully into the silent-mode with regard to homosexuality which in and of itself is sending an equally loud message of acceptance and approval.

Parents of the Christ child, Mary, and Joseph, had a tremendous privilege and an awesome responsibility. They had to help Jesus to grow up to understand the importance of God and of doing His will. At least in part, Christmas took hold of Jesus because Joseph and Mary took the significance of Christmas and lived it out before Him.

If Christmas truly means anything to us, our greatest desire should be that those we care about and love in His Name will know, love, and serve Him according to the Holy Scriptures.

The Church must call homosexual practice sin, and that will remain offensive to many. It is the clarity of the Holy Scriptures that should compel each and every faithful follower of Christ Jesus to be a light where there is darkness, rather than hiding the truth and our witness.

It is impossible to validate homosexual practice, in any form and to any degree, from Scripture.

Today, I remain a completely different person so much so I can barely recall what I was like when I surrendered my life to Christ Jesus. It is an undeniable truth that much of what has occurred and changed in my life I attribute to Christians sharing and holding me to The Truth. Today, however, the world and far too much of the Church is abandoning the moral foundation of Scripture and replacing it with complacency, neglect, and lies.

You told me I was not born gay. I embraced this truth.

You told me change is possible. I changed.

You told me my true identity is in Christ Jesus – not my sexuality. True.

You told me to not allow my past to dictate who I am in Christ today. Agreed.

You told me homosexuals are redeemable with God’s grace and power more than sufficient to transform a life. Amen.

You told me sharing the Gospel is not an option for a Christian but rather obedience to a command. Absolutely.

You told me the only way out of homosexuality was through a deep, personal, intimate relationship with Christ Jesus. And, rightfully so because every spiritual problem requires a spiritual solution.

There is no doubt in my mind Mary and Joseph needed to remember Bethlehem often because there were moments in their lives when their faith was tested and tried. I even imagine there were extremely hard and difficult times in their lives when they wondered, “God, where are you?”

Had God really forgotten Joseph and Mary? No. Mary, in particular, would remember that there at Bethlehem, God had not forgotten “anyone” and that He was at work in the world in ways that no one could really see.

Soon enough all of the Christmas decorations will be gone and the Christmas season will once again come to an end. That’s exactly when you and I will need to remember Christmas. We will need to remember that Christmas tells us that where He is, is where we are also. We are not forgotten. We are not alone. In the middle of difficult and life-trying moments, we will need to remember Bethlehem and that God has come. We must never, ever give up on that – we must never lose hold of that.

We must hold on to it with every ounce of faith we have in us because that is what will keep us going on and on.

It was Christians, speaking both truth and grace into my life, that made the difference. I would not be here today without them. My particular sin and brokenness were not overlooked but rather talked about openly and in conjunction with many, many other sins, and for the first time in my life I began to be who God created me to be.

If this world is to understand all that Christmas truly means and represents, they are going to learn it from you and me.

This Christmas, lift Christmas up to God as an offering and carry Christmas into life.

Christians did that for me and I shall forever remain eternally grateful.

“…whatsoever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31)

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

When God is alleged to sanction that which is a direct contradiction of Scripture, a religious travesty is being played out, and boldly. The growing and true dividing line for many today seems to be whether the Bible is inspired and without error in its original delivery to the prophet’s from God, or whether it is just a collection of man-made opinions and myths.

2 Peter 1:21 tells us clearly, “…men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.”

It is imperative to remember, when you and I call ourselves a “Christian,” we are, or we should be qualifying and clearly stating that, “we are faithful followers of Christ Jesus and all of His teachings.” Meaning, you and I, as a Christian, embrace the totality of Scripture, or not at all. We do not have the luxury of randomly selecting portions of Scripture and possibly rejecting or discarding the rest.

We can and we must be accepting of the wounded, broken, and hurting, but we should never accept a theology, a behavior, or a way of life that flies in the face of God’s Word. When the denigration of Biblical authority and a coherent definition of family is under attack, The Church has no choice but to challenge and confront. Ultimately, to not do so translates to the Church of Jesus Christ, called and ordained to be the light of the world, as being void and without clear guidance.

When anyone claims homosexual practice (in any form and to any degree) is God’s gift to the Church and to society, then challenge is appropriate. And, yes, there is a right way and a wrong way for that to be accomplished.

The notion that all gay activists want is equal protection under the law is false. The gay agenda has long since won that battle. Ultimately, it is full, total, and complete silencing of any opposing voice, which includes God’s Word. The relentless assault and well-strategized attacks upon conservative biblical teachings on homosexual practice are ongoing. There is no doubt the ultimate goal for some gay activists will continue until Christians or anyone opposing homosexual practice are discredited and silenced, with some gay activists having already concluded, “Christian, you have neither the faith nor the strength to fight, so you might as well just give up.”

There is no doubt the Apostle Paul understood and lived his life as a debtor to everyone on the face of the earth because of the Gospel of Jesus. Do we, as Ambassadors for Christ, realize that same indebtedness to every unsaved soul which includes the vast, enormous, and virtually untouched mission field called “the gay community”?

The Oxford American Dictionary defines “silence” as, “absence of sound; avoidance or absence of speaking or of making a sound; the fact of not mentioning something.”

Today, there is a segment of the Church choosing to consciously and deliberately avoid the subject of homosexuality. God’s Word is not a thing that a person can push around at their convenience. The Bible is a Voice, a Word, the very Word of the living God. The Church must call homosexual practice sin, and that will remain offensive to many.

I would submit that the calamity and dilemma many professing Christians face today with regard to homosexuality is not unlike a time when Elijah spoke and said: “How long will you waver between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow Him; but if Baal is God, follow him. But the people said nothing.” (Kings 18:21)

Therefore, how should the Church be responding to homosexuality?



For some churches, the homophobic attitudes of the past have led many to directly or indirectly reject the homosexual for the sake of maintaining God’s righteous stand. However, some churches now claim an “awakened or enlightened” understanding of homosexual practice and, discarding traditional Biblical teachings and dismissing Christian ethics with regard to God’s divine intent for human sexuality, have opened the Church to unrepentant homosexual behavior. Being led and misguided by the false notion and theory – “born that way” – they reach out with compassion but are sacrificing righteousness in the process. There is another response. One that takes courage and unwavering allegiance to the Authority of Scripture and The Lordship of Jesus Christ.

Through the atonement of Jesus Christ and the sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit, God has, is, and will be setting men and women free from the brokenness of same-sex attraction. Why?

“Because Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever!” (Hebrews 13:8)

I hope, I pray, there will be those that will not surrender to the sign of the times and continue to stand for righteousness. Ultimately, the issue for the homosexual is the same as it is for every individual. Where do they stand? Are they dead in sin or alive in Christ? Therefore, we must not withdraw, we must not be silent.

May God grant us courage. It is the clarity of the Holy Scriptures that should compel each and every faithful follower of Christ Jesus to be a light where there is darkness, rather than hiding our witness from those who need it.

Only the Bible gives us the way to eternal life with God, and the true answer to victorious living here on earth. Since God created us, He knows us far better than we can ever know ourselves. He has all power in heaven and earth, and most of all, He loves man.

The Great Light came to extinguish the darkness of hopeless man. Please, do not withhold The Light.


Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

“Research has shown that if you are in a community that is getting healthy or overcoming something difficult, your chances go way, way up.” Dr. Henry Cloud

I came across the above quote which caused me to pause and consider just how many Christian families are now coming to His Way Out Ministries from various cities that surround Bakersfield.

Christian families from Pleasanton, Hanford, Visalia, Porterville, Tehachapi, Ventura, Santa Clarita, Lancaster, Ridgecrest, Wasco, Delano, Lake Isabella, Oxnard, and San Luis Obispo, all in crisis but wanting to make godly choices in response to an issue facing their family.

For Christian parents, in particular, wading through the tsunami of emotions that accompany the announcement of, “Mom, Dad, I’m gay!” are all but swallowed up in, “Where do we go from here?”

Mom, Dad, first and foremost remember that you are a child of God, and He has plans to, “prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” He has promised to be with you always, no matter what kind of calamity or mud pit in which you may find yourself.

Give yourself permission to wade through the myriad of real and genuine emotions. Today, with so much of society and the church being dysfunctional, it is often no small task in being comfortable with owning our feelings. Tragically, some Christian parents with gay-identified children have been told, “Don’t cry,” or “You shouldn’t feel that way.”

The challenge? To look through the eyes of faith which enables the acceptance of the present reality and ultimately produces, “What now, Lord?” rather than, “Why?” In other words, hold on to God’s promises.

Indeed, loving a wayward child the way God loves them means loving them unconditionally. It also means accepting the truth and reality that only God can bring about the change in them you hope and pray to witness. It wasn’t until many years down the road of a new life in Christ Jesus that my mother shared with me…”You don’t know how many times in prayer I got in the enemy’s face and said ‘I don’t care what he has done or even how many times he has done it, in Jesus’ Name, devil, you can’t have him any more!'”

Choose today to “act” rather than “react” to the unwanted circumstance(s) that have come into your life. Seek a support group, a care group, a community in which you can be real by sharing your legitimate concerns. Those in the group need not be experts on the subject of homosexuality and they may not have ever experienced this kind of crisis themselves, but if they are compassionate people, they can give you a great deal of emotional support and nurturing.

Personally, I have the utmost respect and admiration for each and every Christian family that blends uncompromised grace and truth with regard to homosexuality. In doing so, they enable and provide God the opportunity to remind just how big He is and shall forever remain. Refuse to sidestep either truth or grace by speaking clear truth about every and any issue.

Even in the crisis, because Jesus is there with you, life has any and all infinite possibilities.

The storms of life will undoubtedly do everything they possibly can to rip apart the hope we have in Christ Jesus. However, as we each seek Him with all our hearts, often within the fellowship and community of believers, behind each circumstance, each question and each answer stands the only One who can really help any of us. Truly, God knows.

Scripture clearly defines the Church as family. (1 Timothy 5:1-2; 2 Timothy 1:2-5; Hebrews 12:7-10) Having a safe environment and the opportunity to be transparent with one another enables the opportunity to unlock the excessive pressures of this journey called life and relieves pent-up emotions.

Keep Romans 8:28 forever in your heart. God’s promise that “all things work together for good” even when things seem to be shattered should take a high position on the priority list of verses on suffering. And consider “In love’s service, only the wounded can serve, for they alone understand the cry of the bleeding heart.”

At His Way Out Ministries, we have found and continue to see and understand the wisdom of Ecclesiastes 4:9-10: “two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he is in trouble.”

There is much to be said for gathering together. At His Way Out Ministries, while we do not presume to have all the answers, but we do understand the human struggle related to the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

You are welcome here with people on the same-like journey. We are here to listen, support, encourage, and walk with you beyond, “Why?” to, “What now, Lord?”

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 12
Our twelfth broadcast is titled “Letting Go”. As Christians, a huge challenge is giving our loved one over to the Lord. If our prayers go something like, “God, do this,” or “God, don’t allow this,” our prayers need to become, “Lord, I ask you to bring my loved one to You in any way You choose.” Letting go goes against our very nature. However, if we want God to work in the situation, we must let Him do it His way.

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Learning about homosexuality and understanding God’s perspective on same-gender attraction will go a long way in increasing our effectiveness in sharing the Good News of Jesus Christ. So, let’s test your knowledge. How confident are you in offering a response to the following to your gay neighbor, a close relative, a member in your church, or the one you’ve yet to meet?

1. True or False? The person struggling with same-gender attraction is often confused about the Christian viewpoint?
2. True or False? Science has proven that homosexuals are “born that way”?
3. The statement “Homosexuality is the worst of all sins” is…a) Scripturally correct, b) shows a lack of understanding the Bible, c) may be true in a practical sense, d) stating it is harder to overcome than many other sins.
4. A child raised in church and a Christian family…a) has no chance of becoming homosexual, b) must reject the church in order to practice homosexuality, c) can develop homosexually, d) becomes gay when they reject God.
5. After becoming a Christian, the individual will…a) become heterosexual at some point, b) become heterosexual, c) still never be free or same-gender attraction, d) still experience temptation from time to time.

Answers to the CSE Quiz Questions are below. If you struggled in coming to a decision about any of the offered questions, please consider hosting a His Way Out Ministries Educational Workshop at your church. For a detailed list of various workshops, please visit our Educational Workshops page.

CSE Quiz Answers
1. True, 2. False, 3. b) Shows a lack of understanding the Bible, 4. c) Can develop homosexually, 5. d) Still experience temptation from time to time.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 14
Our fourteenth broadcast is titled “Questions and Answers”. For many, homosexuality isn’t just a social issue, it’s very personal. Our “Questions and Answers” broadcast offers straightforward, godly, and compassionate insights into the subject of homosexuality by providing a series of questions that many want to ask but are often reluctant to voice.

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There are those that would argue that to be “totally set free” is an impossibility since we will always sin as long as we are in the flesh. While I certainly agree we will always sin as long as we are in the flesh, “it” does not have to be idolatrous, addictive, or enable unreal levels of evil desires that war against God’s truth.

Today, some would say that offering a message of freedom from homosexuality is to hold out a message of false hope to people caught in this particular sin. However, I would present the biblical fact that people were being set free in the Apostle Paul’s day (1 Corinthians 6:11) and those whom the Son sets free are free indeed (John 8:36).

It is abundantly clear that Jesus counted ungodly lust with any participation or activity as sin when He said, “Everyone who looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28)

It is time that we all purify ourselves by uprooting ungodly reactions and lies that hold us captive and remember that God Himself has called each of His followers to holiness and not just those who struggle with homosexuality.

Today, far too many individuals, ministries, and churches are stating and teaching that the very best a man or woman struggling with same-sex attraction can hope for is celibacy. In other words, each man and each woman can successfully stop activity but they will just have to live with the desires. I believe Jesus spoke clearly regarding all sexual sin.

A believer in Christ Jesus must see lust as a sin, confess it as such and then work to uproot “fueling agents” that often accompany attempts at justifying our sin just because we have been hurt. God knows every detail of our pain, abuse, and neglect and He desires to set us free but we must purify ourselves and that always involves the “process” of holiness. Admittedly, holiness is progressive and it does not occur in anyone’s life overnight.

Clearly, every born-again believer must obey the truth in order to be purified and walk in holiness.

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers: love one another deeply from your heart. For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring Word of God.” (1 Peter 1:22-23)

It seems to me if we (Christians) are to purify ourselves, obedience to God’s Word is imperative. Practically speaking, reading one’s Bible, spending time in prayer, journaling our thoughts and feelings, spiritual work such as addressing ungodly vows, bitterness, envy, and renouncing justification of sin because of hurt, are just a few of the areas that must be potentially addressed.

Also, we must confess our sins and believe that in doing so…”God is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9)

Clearly, if we claim to be without sin, we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us.

I like what Oswald Chambers states in My Utmost for His Highest, “The one marvelous secret of a holy life lies not in imitating Jesus, but in letting the perfections of Jesus manifest themselves in my mortal flesh.”

When any man or woman thoroughly and completely gives up the entire context of homosexuality, there is no more keeping of records of how long it has been since a fall occurred or how long it has been since looking on someone to lust after them. Frankly, I believe that is pretty much useless because God does not want us to keep records of falls or victories, but rather a complete change of heart so we will love what He loves and hate what He hates.

Indeed, it takes time to cleanse and purify our hearts. However, the process and journey are well worth the effort if for no other reason than God will be glorified.

When we embrace the totality and truth of Scripture without compromise, God empowers us to walk in His purposes.

Those who choose to live by God’s unchanging truth engage in the ongoing challenge of applying God’s unchanging standards to our ever-changing society, world, and this journey, with its many twists and turns called…life.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 13
Our thirteenth broadcast is titled “How Do We Love Them Like Jesus?” The Gospel of John is clear in its description of Jesus. Jesus was 100% grace and 100% truth. He never erred on one side or the other. If we are truly to represent Christ’s heart and mind to the sexually broken, we must be equally balanced in those two critical areas as well.

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