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When I originally offered the article titled, “You Won’t Blow Up!” which focused on the subject of “celibacy” and how the God-given mandate and calling for single men and women goes against the normal flow of our culture, a culture which promotes a love of pleasure and self-indulgence. The article caused quite a stir resulting in my hearing from many via email, Facebook and by phone.

For the most part, the majority of people that contacted me agreed with the content of the article but there was an element with some communicating, “Celibacy? Get real, Phillip!”

Admittedly, the complacency, the disbelief and the outright disregard of any possibility of any man or woman living within God’s holy boundary lines with regard to sexual expression deeply troubled and troubles me. Troubling because Jesus could not have been more clear in defining if a person is not married the only acceptable option with God is celibacy. For the single person, celibacy is a good thing and should be our only choice if we want to live according to God’s word and plan.

There is no doubt the winds of social change continue to blowing aimlessly and carelessly across America with emphasis being placed upon “tolerance” – which is to be extended to everyone and anyone without limitation and to any and all kinds of sexual expression.

I have a couple of questions, please.

Is there nothing wrong with sex as long as it is consensual?

And if there is something wrong, what is it?

Does it really come down to a matter of personal taste, of private sentiment and personal choice?

Have we become a nation that gains our sense of purpose and meaning primarily from our sexual desires and behavior?

The reality of an across-the-board crisis of sexual and relational brokenness in America and The Church clearly points to an increasing inability, as a society, to make healthy and moral distinctions. Even those who place a high premium on tolerance are obligated to recognize that matters of various sexual lifestyles now threatens the very values and institutions on which a solid and vital society is built and sustained.

What matters morally should and must be determined on the basis of our best understanding about what constitutes human well-being. Today, more than ever, responsible American citizens and faithful followers of Christ Jesus should place under the microscope, a moral gaze on their sexual behavior.

Clearly, not every American or Christian is willing or responsive enough to such an obligation. What’s more, they do not want anyone to hold them responsible. Those who have the self-respect to recognize that a person is not reducible to his or her desires or behavior truly exhibit a concern for social justice, personal responsibility, a care and concern for a healthy and holy Church, and a true love for this nation which seeks nothing higher than the welfare of people.

How is it in choosing to dismiss and disregard a moral compass, we are shocked by the state of our culture? 
Even so, shocked at what has happened and continues to spread in the Church?

Speaking as someone that was trapped for many years in a behavior and lifestyle, thinking there was no way out, I completely understand how anyone might have difficulty in believing in and receiving God’s forgiveness, restoration, and the holding on to “God does have a much, much better way!”

“But Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8)

God remains rich in mercy and remains willing to deliver anyone.

“He is forever our great Sin-bearer and the God who forgives.” (Psalm 99:8)

Jesus Christ is the only Alternative, Solution and Answer.

He addresses the problem – man limited to self – and provides the way through which we can find fulfillment in Him.

America is in need of huge and immediate change. I believe the Church should be out front by showing the way to bring it about. If things continue in this wonderful nation as they have, America and the Church will remain adrift without a moral compass.

There was a time when the Church set societal standards. We cannot and we must not apologize for moral and ethical “holy boundary lines” for living. All faithful followers of Christ Jesus are called to a higher standard.

It is absolutely essential we return to pinning our faith to, and subject “all” our thinking to and doing to, 
what we read in the Bible.

The 138th Psalm says, “I will praise your name for your loving kindness and your truth, for you have magnified your word about your name.”

Obviously, God thinks highly of His name – but He has magnified His Word even about His name – and so should we all.

If America and the Church continues, in so many ways, to disregard, downplay and dismiss “the spiritual with regard to God’s divine intent for human sexuality,” sexuality will rule and reign supreme.

When the moral question has been offered, considered and answered, then, and only then, can we truly deal with the moral decay that exists in American society, the Church and the world. Until then, we are adrift without a moral compass.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160728

Celibacy.
Ok, there. I said it!

I suppose I should pause right here and apologize for not giving more advance warning knowing many are in immediate need of an endless supply of oxygen for resuscitation purposes.

While many continue to preach, “If it feels good do it!” and “Since everyone is doing it and doing it behind closed doors (well, some anyway), Go for it!” let me begin by stating that if you choose not to have sex “You won’t blow up!”

You will be OK. Life will go on.

Today, more than ever, single men and women (straight or gay) face a relentless onslaught of pressure and challenges daily. Ultimately, we are all in a battle to stay pure in a very impure world. The music industry, news media, educational system, TV and the Internet are keeping all of us completely saturated in a lust-filled atmosphere. Frankly, many today are far more interested and concerned with pleasing themselves outside of God’s will, plan and purpose and simply do not trust Him enough to supply all of their needs. In America, especially, “feeling good” has become a narcotic – a drug of choice.

You know, I have accepted the fact that as long as I am on this earth – single or not – I will be engaged in combating something. The undeniable truth is that my flesh will always be at war with the Spirit of God in me. “For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things you wish.” (Galatians 5:17)

As a single man, called to a life that involves going against the normal flow of our culture, a culture which promotes a love of pleasure and self-indulgence, I remain a man called and commanded by Christ Jesus to strive for purity. Now, if that sounds like too much of a tall order, remember Jesus will never ask anything of us that is impossible for us to obey.

I’ll give that just a moment to sink in.

When anyone, gay or straight, makes the conscious choice to stray beyond God’s holy boundary lines in terms of sexual expression, we bring terrible consequences upon ourselves by our rebellion and disobedience. Sexual sin of any type or any degree causes an immediate dividing wall between our spirit and God’s. God doesn’t create the dividing wall, our sinful behavior does. With so many today exclaiming their desire to be delivered from a considerable list of habits, addictions and compulsive behaviors, I just can’t help but believe the reason God does not deliver us from particular sins that are a concern to us is that we remain unwilling to cooperate with Him in delivering us from other sins that He has already made known to us.

And, while I am defining “holy boundary lines,” let me be thorough and fair. Any perversion beyond God’s original divine intent for human sexuality which includes adultery, prostitution, promiscuity, homosexuality, and more, is thoroughly and repeatedly condemned in Scripture (1 Corinthians 6:9; Romans 13:13; Galatians 5:19-21). Therefore, in terms of the single man or woman, Jesus could not have been more clear in defining if a person is not married the only acceptable option with God is celibacy. For the single person, celibacy is a good thing and should be our only choice if we want to live according to God’s word and plan.

While the world continues to encourage every and any type of sexual expression under the sun, I wonder, has remaining celibate become so obsolete because we have become so enlightened in our understanding of human sexuality? I think not.

May I be frank? A little over 30 years ago, I made a real commitment to follow Jesus. Have I had to face my share of intense temptation? Duh? But, I made a promise. Rather than caving in to complete despair because of the battle or desires of my flesh, I have always held on to the fact there was strength (overcoming strength) and hope because Jesus promised me that I would never, ever be forsaken or snatched from His hand (John 10:28).

I assure you the Lord Jesus Christ will keep anyone who wants to be kept.

“Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” (Romans 8:37)

We have become far too impatient with things that take time. Today, we even want our own personal deliverance to be micro waved. Relax and enjoy the journey! I guarantee you every faithful follower of Christ Jesus is “continuing to work out their own salvation with fear and trembling.” (Philippians 2:12)

Yes, in the midst of such a decadent culture, you have hope. Psalm 119:9-11 tells us, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping it according to Your Word. With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me wander from Your commandments. Your Word I have treasured in my heart, that I may not sin against You.”

May you have the courage, conviction and commitment to do what is right in His sight.

Given the fact you have completed reading this and have not blown up!

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160709

The Bible teaches that God not only takes care of our past, He transforms our present and assures our future. Scripture clearly shows us that at the Cross God smashed the iron doors which Satan had used to imprison us. Therefore, God Himself literally entered our dark cell of any and all forms of brokenness, held out His Hand to us and encouraged and extended a walk with Him into freedom and change.

Those who suppose that Jesus only lived and died and rose again in order to provide forgiveness of sins for His people, are making Him only half a Savior.

C.H. Spurgeon once said, “the fact is, that believers are in a state of conflict, but not in a state of condemnation; and that at the very time when the conflict is the hottest, the believer is still justified.”

In life, in death, in time, in eternity, there is no condemnation to them that are in Christ Jesus.

Generally speaking, the Church has not been there for the man or woman seeking a way out of the brokenness of same-sex attraction. Without hearing a message of love, encouragement and support from the Church and/or a testimony from someone who has been there and has been changed, the person attempting change on their own will usually give up, thinking it is impossible like “they say.”

At His Way Out Ministries, we remain purposed and dedicated to bring the message that it is not helpful to the person struggling with same-sex attraction to either endorse his sin or reject him as a person, rather, the Church must provide the new way and the new lifestyle that will replace and push out the old sinful patterns of life.

This is Biblical discipleship with regard to “change” and requires that a person learn new ways of thinking and acting, and new responses to old temptations.

The power to change is not in knowledge of works, the power is all in our relationship with God.

“But seek first His Kingdom and righteousness, and all these things will be given you as well.” (Matthew 6:33)

I would submit that each man and each woman is not fighting for future victory, but to embrace more fully Christ’s accomplished victory already won for them at the Cross.

Thank you, Lord Jesus, that You have already smashed the power of homosexuality at the Cross!

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160726

Among the many issues the Church faces today, none is more important than how the Church ministers to men and women with sexual and relational brokenness. The clarity of Romans 12:2 gives every Christian, without exception, two choices – either conform to the increasingly sexually broken world, or be agents of transformation.

For far too many, the cause and effect of the so called ‘sexual revolution,’ which promoted and promised ‘freedom,’ in reality birthed loneliness, unstable relationships, the abuse of children and the on-going rapid transmission of disease.

Today, there are many men and women needing ministry with regard to sexual and relational brokenness who are already within Church. Sadly, the Church continues to struggle greatly in extending ministry to the sexually broken, whether heterosexual or homosexual. A major change is long overdue.

Frankly, there is no doubt in my mind that men and women who have experienced freedom from same-sex attraction and even those still in the recovery and transformation process have much to teach the Church about ministry to the sexually broken. However, their powerful witness is far too often silenced by the Church. Consequently, we are dismissing and losing a considerable treasure in our own ranks.

In reality, the number of men and women struggling with and combating the long list of heterosexual sexual addictions far out number those combating unwanted same-sex attraction. The number of heterosexuals in our society which engage in sexual promiscuity, living together before marriage, and divorce is huge and cannot be dismissed or ignored.

I find it ironic as well as tragic that despite the undeniable evidence with regard to the need for ministry to the sexually broken in Church, there are those that want to kill the messenger. Today, former homosexuals are frequently attacked from both sides on the debate over morality. Ultimately, what gets lost are those in need of ministry. There is no doubt that the debate over the morality of homosexual practice will continue which will continue to fuel the reality that sexual brokenness exists which points to the truth that the need for ministry is needed and will always exist.

Now, here is where I am confident I will definitely ruffle some feathers. A church, any church that cannot or is unwilling to meet the great need that exists in the Church today with regard to those struggling with sexual brokenness, heterosexual or homosexual, will find itself sexually dysfunctional. Dysfunctional because it places itself in a position of not being able to offer the basic functions of upholding morality and extending ministry to the sexually broken.

Silence is undeniably an earmark of a dysfunctional family because the real problems are never discussed and resolved. I submit, if we, The Church, will decide and follow through by breaking the bonds of secrecy which frequently darken and downplay the reality of sexual brokenness in our own ranks, “we” will find healing.

Not long ago, I was talking with a friend and ministry colleague when she offered, “We are definitely in need of new strategies.” The statement pushed all my buttons. While I agreed, I also thought, “Where do we start?”

How about using reason and logic, not just emotion, to understand what we, The Church, are truly facing?

It seems to me that the much-needed healing of sexual brokenness in our own ranks may just spark the renewal and restoration needed within The Church, thereby enabling the upholding of truth and the extension of compassionate competent ministry.

The ministry of hope, truth, healing and transformation comes from Romans 12:2, where the Apostle Paul calls on all Christians (no exceptions) to transform their lives. The Church must be a welcoming place for those struggling with sexual brokenness.

Jesus told the parable of the Prodigal Son in Luke 15:11-32. If you recall the son went away from his family and ended up in a damaging lifestyle. Ultimately, he comes to his senses, repents and returns home. You hopefully recall that he was met by his loving and forgiving father. But his older brother objected to his welcome home.

This is the choice that stands before many of us today. Will we be the loving father or the condemning brother?

Today, many that are in the process of transformation and recovering from their sexual brokenness, want to be in church, indeed, many are already in our churches. Will we welcome and offer them ministry?

While we, in and of ourselves cannot promise healing to any person, even though we are convinced that God can and does heal many, we must continue to see the Body of Christ as the primary agent for any and all transformation. The ministry of hope, healing, wholeness and transformation takes place in the Body of Christ, The Church.

It is imperative the Body of Christ stand against current trends in today’s society that have and continue to distort human sexuality as God intended and created it.

In the end, we will be successful by extending a ministry solution. We are individually and collectively part of God’s plan by offering the ministry of transformation and humbly realizing God has called us to partner with Him in His plan.

What a privilege. What an honor. What a responsibility.

“…where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.” (2 Corinthians 3:17)

From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries…
To each of you who continually bless us by your encouragement, ministry participation, monthly financial support, offerings, and prayers…we remain truly grateful. His Way Out Ministries is proclaiming to, educating and impacting the world with the biblical truth that freedom from homosexuality is possible when Jesus Christ is Lord of your life! (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160726

Does failure compel you away from God, or compel you to cast yourself on His grace?

We are all on a journey of obedience and along the way we experience God’s healing hand. Sometimes our path is marked by absolute ecstasy of His presence, but sometimes it s marked by our will to obey Him in the absence of spiritual passion.

Our humility will always bear, to some degree or another, the marks of this fallen age we live in. But what exactly does that mean? Could it possibly mean that…

the habitual liar may still slip at times?
the homosexual struggler may still experience homosexual temptations?
the formerly abused one may at times feel irrationally threatened in certain situations?
the former addict may need on-going accountability in his or her area of weakness?

None of that minimizes God’s power. It simply places that person into a process, a journey of becoming whole – a process that will never end until we see Jesus in heaven. A Christian’s goal is always Jesus Christ and in turn Christ-likeness. Without question, the goal of sanctification is to be conformed into the image of Jesus Christ and not to be a close-ended definition of wholeness.

Please find comfort in knowing that sanctification and becoming whole in Jesus is a process. And, because it is a process, it doesn’t happen over night.

Growing whole takes time – a lifetime in fact.

“You can do all things through Him who gives you strength.” (Philippians 4:13)

Homosexuality and the Authority of Scripture

Where faithful followers of Christ Jesus must part company with those that promote pro-gay theology is in the misguided conclusions they have drawn. The Holy Scriptures cannot be rewritten, as they have, to accommodate a sin simply because some believe it to be inborn, unchangeable, or common.

Jesus Himself warned that a prominent sign of the days before His coming would be an increase in deception. (Matthew 24:4)

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160529

In essence, we have become a culture who now worships itself as God, not only in mind and body, but also in destiny and purpose. We sanction this ‘religion’ through feeling and experience while pronouncing all truth to be relative. How incredibly convenient is that?

We are a people driven, controlled and consumed by our feelings. Very often, truth becomes established according to our experiences. Our self-obsession and rebellion against the rule of God has blinded us.

Christians are commanded to “come out from among these rebellious people.” (2 Corinthians 6:17-18) Believe it or not, we do not have to respond to every feeling or emotion that comes along. God gave us a mind and the inner witness of the Holy Spirit to guide us into all truth. Experience must always be subservient to the principles outlined in God’s Word.

I have been and continue to be very fortunate and blessed in meeting men and women who have emerged from the brokenness of same-sex attraction. When I view and consider the personal difficulties they have had to face, the incredible courage they have displayed not only in facing many difficulties but also in confronting a culture that uses every opportunity to deny the validity of their values, goals, and experiences, I stand back in awe. It is these men and women, former homosexuals and those still struggling, who present a model of everything good and possible.

Frankly, the battle that rages is not over a person’s sexuality, but rather over which spirit will claim that person’s allegiance. The cultural and political battle over homosexuality and related issues has become in many respects the defining moment for our society.

The battle rages over much more than just “gay rights.” The more important aspect of this battle is not the political one; it is the one for the individual human soul.

In his book, Eros Defiled, John White writes, “We are all playing Christian club games while men and women around us are tormented by sin, too timid to bare their bosoms, too ashamed to ask our help.”

It is the response of the Church to the man or woman combating same-sex attraction that will largely determine if he or she will keep fighting. All the counseling, support groups, curriculum, etc. in the world will be in vain if he does not have a church to love him, support him, and relate to him.

We must recognize the existence of homosexually oriented believers in our churches. They exist and a tremendous need for ministry exists with them.

When we preach or teach against the evil of a lifestyle or activity, we should also be seeking alternatives to offer in place of the thing we are condemning. It doesn’t take a lot of expertise to develop ministry to those struggling with same-sex attraction. Some basic understanding of homosexuality is helpful, of course, and the many ministries, churches and professional Christian counselors affiliated with Restored Hope Network can provide an abundance of useful information.

However, a willingness to be involved in the lives of those struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction is the starting point from which solid, successful ministry to them can develop.

“Love, and the unity it attests to, is the mark Christ gave Christians to wear before the world. Only with this mark may the world know that Christians are indeed Christians and that Jesus was sent by the Father.” Francis Schaeffer

His Way Out Ministries remains dedicated to raising awareness, educating, encouraging and equipping the Body of Christ to minister transformingly to those struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

20160624

Home from the hospital late yesterday afternoon. Please know all of your emails and FB comments have been and shall remain greatly appreciated. I will be taking things easy for quite some time.

Our Lord richly bless and keep you,

Phillip

Back surgery went extremely well, and should produce very positive results. Waiting to hear about maybe going home today. Urinary tract infection and slight touch of pneumonia. Will update as soon as possible. Many many thanks for all the prayers.

Phillip

First, thank you for all your prayers.

I am scheduled to have surgery this morning or evening to address arthritis and two places severed in my spine, recovery may be lengthy.

This morning I awoke to the old hymn, “How Great Thou Art,” resounding in my heart, mind, and spirit. Does it get any better?

I will try to keep everyone updated when possible.

God Bless, Phillip

Phillip is in the hospital for an undetermined length of time, therefore he will not be responding to posts or messages. Please pray.

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