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“When we have children, we release hostages to fate.” – John F. Kennedy

Last night, I spent the evening with approximately 20 parents, Christian parents with gay-identified children. When the meeting concluded and I arrived back home, my mind continued to revisit and process the many things shared.

A common thread that frequently surfaced during the meeting was distinguishing between “acceptance and approval.”

Loving a wayward child the way God loves them means loving them unconditionally. It also means accepting the truth and reality that only God can bring about the change in them you hope and pray to witness.

It wasn’t until many years down the road of a new life in Christ Jesus that my mother shared with me, “You don’t know how many times in prayer I got in the enemy’s face and said ‘I don’t care what he has done or even how many times he has done it, in Jesus’ Name, devil, you can’t have him any more!’”

Choosing to “act” rather than “react” to the unwanted circumstance(s) that have come into your life is a healthy first-step forward. Seek a care group, a community in which you can be real by sharing your legitimate concerns. Those in the group need not be experts on the subject of homosexuality and they may not have ever experienced this kind of crisis themselves, but if they are compassionate people, they can give you a great deal of emotional support and nurturing.

Scripture clearly defines the Church as family. (1 Timothy 5:1-2; 2 Timothy 1:2-5; Hebrews 12:7-10). Having a safe environment and opportunity to be transparent with one another enables opportunity to unlock the excessive pressures of this journey called life and relieves pent-up emotions.

Keep Romans 8:28 forever in your heart. God’s promise that, “all things work together for good,” even when things seem to be shattered should take a high position on the priority list of verses on suffering.

At His Way Out Ministries, we have found and continue to see and understand the wisdom of Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he is in trouble.”

Our Part: As faithful followers of Christ Jesus, our part is to respond with godly love, understanding, patience and to clearly define the difference between acceptance and approval.

As Christians, we accept all people but that does mean we approve of how they may be living.

God’s Part: To give strugglers an abhorrence for the behavior that will bring them to a place of complete surrender to the sovereignty of God in their lives, and a desire to change.

God loves to walk in and turn things around. He loves to do what looks humanly impossible.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our eleventh broadcast is titled “Now, It’s Personal!” Christians with gay-identified loved ones are often eager to share the Good News of Christ, but they wonder how they can do so without sounding judgmental. When someone you love is homosexual, you quickly become aware of your inability to face life’s challenges apart from the grace of God.

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Now, It’s Personal! with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

It’s a fact that much of modern society is preoccupied, if not consumed by sex. Today, many Christian men and women are highly disturbed by their sexual feelings. For some, sexual obsession has become a form of worship. Anytime we give our hearts, minds and bodies over to remain in a state of sexual arousal, we are indeed doing exactly what the Apostle Paul talks about when he refers to worshipping created things rather than the Creator.

“Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is forever praised. Amen.” (Romans 1:24-25)

As the prophet asked in Ezekiel 33:10; “How should we then live?” in a society that is so permeated by sex that even the most dedicated Christian is affected? More specifically, how does a Christian man or woman face and deal with sexual temptations – whether gay or straight?

First, we must understand and believe the clarity of Scripture that Jesus, our Savior and High Priest was tempted Himself and understands our temptation. Please embrace and take comfort in Hebrews 4:14-16:

“Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”

It is a fact that God knows our struggles, understands and forgives our failures. More than not, the questions most people face when confronted with temptation is not “Does God care?” but “Do I care?” Clearly, within Scripture God has made an abundance of resources available to us that we are sometimes unwilling to employ. Therefore, let’s be honest. We sin because we choose to sin rather than because we are left without resources by a God who doesn’t care.

According to the Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 10:13; “No temptation has seized us except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” Clearly, when we choose to ignore the resources offered to us by God, we fail.

Regularly, I receive invitations to speak and teach on the topic of same-gender attraction. Every now and then, I am challenged by someone that feels I should not speak so frankly and openly about homosexuality. The view, by some, is that by making people aware I may be encouraging them to participate. I do listen, even trying to take them seriously due to their usage of the following:

“The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” (Romans 13:12-14)

While I do respect their opinion, I still believe we must know the enemy and understand both the subtle and the obvious ways he tries to affect us. Making people aware of dangers is not the same as thinking about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.

So, what do you and I do when we fail? Ultimately, it’s pretty easy to keep the right focus and attitude when sexual temptations have been resisted successfully. However, when any man or woman has given into sexual temptation, “What’s the use?” is all too common to surface. “I’ve blown it and so I just might as well do some other things also” is anything but the thought, attitude or approach recommended by Jesus. I guarantee you that in adopting or embracing these mentioned thoughts or actions will only lead to deep guilt as well as continued sexual frustration and spiritual frustration also.

When Jesus confronted individuals who had sinned and who were truly repentant, His response was always the same. He forgave the sin but also challenged the person to forsake it and begin living a better way. Once our sin has been admitted and we see our sin as God sees it, it is imperative we place our full attention and focus on our Savior and no longer upon our sin. Do not remain in a mode of mentally replaying your sin. That, in and of itself, can become an obsession.

When we are purposed to keep our eyes on Jesus, we see victory. This absolutely gives us hope. However, when we continue to fix our eyes on our recurring brokenness or sin, we will see only defeat which can easily transcend to becoming ashamed even to look at Jesus. We must keep our focus and attention on our source of hope rather than that which is broken. That is exactly why a regular time of reading Scripture and praying is essential. It puts our attention on Christ where it belongs. One more time – look at the Savior, not at the sin.

I really believe that any discussion about sexual temptation would be incomplete without a look at the way David dealt with his own sin. David was brutally honest with God, which just may be why, despite his sin, he was called a man after God’s own heart. In Psalm 51:5-12 he writes:

“Surely I have been a sinner from birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me. Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place. Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of our salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.”

There is a way out. God is good!

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our tenth broadcast is titled “Why I Cannot Accept the ‘Gay Christian’ Identity.” As Christians, our relationship with God through Christ is the cornerstone of our identity. Today, many are being told, “Accept yourself and follow your heart.” However, Jesus says, “Deny yourself and follow Me.”

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Why I Cannot Accept the ‘Gay Christian’ Identity with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our ninth broadcast is titled “Homosexuality and the Church pt2.” Caution: Confrontation is not enough to change a heart. The heart, having been hardened through deception or rebellion or both, has to be softened. And that is the work of God alone. Ours is to speak God’s truth, trusting Him to make it alive in our hearers.

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Homosexuality and the Church pt2 with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

Exciting and wonderful, I believe, would accurately define 2019 for His Way Out Ministries. We have witnessed numerous prayers and requests become a reality due to our waiting on the Lord to hear His voice and then earnestly praying according to His will, plan, and purpose for His ministry called His Way Out.

Today, we remain steadfast in learning to listen closely to the Lord as we are on the threshold of a New Year. God is leading all of us at His Way Out Ministries and I am purposed to step through each and every door of opportunity He opens to His Way Out Ministries.

I am confident each individual, family, ministry, and church which comprises the His Way Out Ministries Network in America, the Caribbean, and South America, would ask you to pray for us to continue to clearly hear His voice and do what He tells us.

At His Way Out Ministries, we remain confident our major calling is to disciple men and women with unwanted same-gender attraction as well as develop materials and teachings that will instruct, guide, and equip the Church and its workers. To date, we have been faithful to do this and we give God praise for the numerous doors of opportunity in which our teachings have blessed many thousands of people. Now, our desire is to proceed accordingly to His will as we look forward to a New Year.

His Way Out Ministries continues to receive new people making their way to us for ministry. Individuals that struggle with same-gender attraction, wives whose marriage has been impacted by sexual impurity, parents trying to come to terms with their child’s declaration of same-gender attraction, ministry to those impacted by HIV/AIDS, and more and more invitations, both locally and abroad, to teach and equip the Body of Christ in ministry to the sexually broken remain strong and on the increase. There are those times when it can be overwhelming and appear almost impossible, but that is when we extend our faith beyond our capabilities into the realm of His possibilities and promises.

In 2019, an abundance of new men and women connected with His Way Out Ministries because of their struggle with same-gender attraction. Within minutes of meeting with each man and each woman, each individual expressed, “The gay lifestyle is a dead end, empty and holds no promise for the future.” Frankly, their sincerity and transparency was refreshing and greatly appreciated. During each in-house or on-line meeting, it became obvious that each individual felt like a total and complete failure, in spite of their undeniable gifts, intelligence, and talents. Ultimately, the course of each conversation turned to the importance of each person knowing Jesus as Savior and Lord. Not too surprising since a goal here at His Way Out Ministries is to lead each person that comes our way into the presence of Christ Himself and to teach them how to develop intimacy with Him. Or, as I have heard it said and agree fully, “We are not here to overcome anything, but to be overcome by Christ.”

More than ever, I believe God wants The Church to reach to individuals struggling with same-gender attraction. We are convinced that God the Father is leading His Way Out Ministries into new areas of ministry and into deeper depths of His Holy Presence. He is revealing His heart for this ministry and what He desires to do to penetrate the kingdom of darkness not only in American society but the world concerning sexual brokenness – heterosexual, homosexual, male, female, family, adult, teenager, and the many related issues that accompany sexual and relational brokenness.

As I walk by faith, but also dealing in reality, I am acutely aware that here in America laws are being challenged and changed. Homosexual marriage is legal in the eyes of government and our education system has become much more tolerant and sensitive to lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender students while falsely teaching pro-homosexual lessons through health education curriculum. Religious institutions continue to revise their faith traditions by following social trends. Media and movies are basically a sound stage to promote homosexuality unchallenged and without debate. Scientific organizations are reluctant to allow any discussion about the causes and therapy of unwanted same-gender attraction.

At His Way Out Ministries we believe we have a mandate and a calling to bring understanding to the confusing issue of homosexuality. Indeed, it is past due to set many records straight and provide answers to key questions, separating fact from fiction. Are people born with same-sex attraction? Did God make them that way? Did they choose to have same-sex attraction? Does God really love those who experience homosexual feelings? How do we respond to same-sex attracted family members, friends, co-workers and fellow brothers and sisters in Christ?

Therefore, His Way Out Ministries remains dedicated to communicating a message of hope that change is possible for those struggling with same-gender desires, we refuse to be silent about the truth, and we remain steadfast in believing people have a choice with regard homosexual practice.

I remain convinced if Jesus were here today He would reach out in love to men and women struggling with same-gender attraction and require His Church to treat the same with dignity and respect. I also believe that Jesus would seek and work towards providing a safe environment for those struggling with same-gender attraction, an environment we are purposed to continue providing at His Way Out Ministries, without fear of condemnation or persecution.

Of course, as followers of Christ, the practice of homosexuality should never be encouraged or affirmed. However, when any man or woman has the courage and the integrity to disclose their battle with same-gender attraction, that in and of itself should never be taken lightly and ultimately viewed as an opportunity to share Christ’s love and acceptance for and to the individual. The delicate balance is our willingness as Ambassadors for Christ to keep the lines of communication open and enter into a relationship without compromising truth or love. It means not backing down from the truth of Scripture and remaining dedicated to reaching men and women in a Christ-like way. Since love is basic to Christianity, His love must be extended to all people – including those that struggle with homosexuality; that, I remain convinced, is exactly what Jesus would do.

Each of us can either be part of the problem by not taking any action, or we can participate in changing history by reaching out in love, forgiveness, and understanding. Ultimately, the crisis of homosexuality will not be solved by politics, science, or the media. The solution is in your hands and mine, within our hearts, inside our minds, and most definitely by our actions. The sooner each person gets involved, the sooner the resolution occurs.

I am confident we have all heard the statement, “God hates sin but loves the sinner.” It has been my experience – both professionally and personally – that this is a true statement. Yes, Jesus is a friend of sinners; in fact, the greatest friend they will ever know.

Equally true is God hates sin. He hates every act of sin that has ever been committed. In fact, He intensely hates it because He understands that it ruins lives, destroys families and corrupts society. In short, the Lord cannot tolerate it because it does so much damage to people’s lives.

All of us at His Way Out Ministries are dedicated to truly loving the sinner but hating the sin. We remain dedicated to continually resist popular trends with our ministry position resting fully on the Authority of Scripture versus the interpretations of some of the social sciences. All ministry services at His Way Out Ministries remain centered on the biblical foundations of compassion, integrity, and dependence on God.

Ultimately, as we are on the threshold of a New Year, all of us at His Way Out Ministries believe the Scriptures contain the final truth and authority concerning all matters of morality and present Jesus Christ as the One who has the power to release people from the snare of same-gender attraction.

It is therefore our goal and vision to proclaim this truth of freedom through the Lord Jesus Christ.

From all of Us at His Way Out Ministries…Happy New Year!

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our eighth broadcast is titled “Homosexuality and the Church pt1.” Caution: Confrontation is not enough to change a heart. The heart, having been hardened through deception or rebellion or both, has to be softened. And that is the work of God alone. Ours is to speak God’s truth, trusting Him to make it alive in our hearers.

Listen online or download the podcast.

Homosexuality and the Church pt1 with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

The kind of truth faithful followers of Christ Jesus are called to embrace, proclaim, and walk in, does not have grey edges. It is clear and straight forward about God’s commandments and God’s priorities.

It definitively names and defines what is right and wrong and does not veil the consequences for both obedience and disobedience.

Whether Christian or not, anyone seeking truth, God’s absolute truth regarding homosexuality, must turn to the Holy Scriptures.

“Straight Talk” seeks to turn controversy into ministry because those who live by truth engage in the ongoing challenge of applying God’s unchanging standards to our ever-changing culture and world.

  • What is the difference between “sharing the Gospel versus clobbering someone with the Bible?”
  • How is “speaking the truth in love” accomplished to someone whose entire identity is wrapped up in their sexuality?
  • Scripturally-speaking, what do we know about homosexuality?
  • How do you respond to: “Love is love, so what difference does it make if it is two men or two women. Love is what matters most?”
  • What’s wrong with this picture: “We repent enough to be forgiven, but do we surrender enough to be changed?”
  • With God’s Word being crystal clear that change is possible for the man or woman combating same-sex attraction, why do you suppose many are stating change is not possible?
  • Which is easier for you to say, “Please forgive me for…,” or, “I need to talk to you about something you are doing that hurts me?”
  • How would you define (to the gay-identified man/woman) the difference between “acceptance and approval?”

“Sanctify the Lord God in your hearts,” the apostle Peter admonished. “And always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear.” (1 Peter 3:15)

“Straight Talk” will meet on the 1st Saturday of each month at the His Way Out Ministries Office.

Please visit www.hiswayout.com/contact for our location.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Our seventh broadcast is titled “Homosexuality vs The Authority of Scripture.”

Why has the issue of homosexuality been so divisive to the Church?

In many respects, the dividing line seems to be whether the Bible is ‘inspired’ and without error in its original delivery to the prophets from God. Ultimately, the true crisis we face today is the Lordship of Christ and the Authority of Scripture. It really does seem that ‘society’ is often dictating to the Church what the Church should believe.

In many respects, the Church has not been given any choice but to challenge and confront those that promote ‘gay is good’ in a stand against the denigration of biblical authority, the loss of a coherent definition of family, and the sexual exploitation of children.

Frankly, the battle(s) that rages, is not over just a persons’ sexuality, but rather over which spirit will claim that person’s allegiance. The cultural battle over homosexuality has become in many respects the defining moment for our society.

The more important aspect of this battle is not the political one; it is the one for the individual human soul.

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Homosexuality vs The Authority of Scripture with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

Just about any behavior begins to look normal if you are exposed to enough of it.

Does a pedophilia agenda actually exist?

It is 1981, I am living in San Francisco and very much a member of the gay community. On a Sunday afternoon, I leave my apartment and walk down Powell Street toward Market Street, the main drag of downtown San Francisco.

The closer and closer I get to Market Street, clearly something is going on because the boulevard is lined with a huge crowd of people. I have happened upon my first Gay Pride Parade.

I cannot believe what I am witnessing. Frankly, the first thought that occurred to me was – “Why aren’t these people being arrested?” – largely due to the pornographic nature and displays that are parading by, one after another after another. And, I am thinking, “This is what I am to be proud of?”

It was my first and last gay pride parade.

Today, far, far beyond equal rights for many groups in America in their attempts to reweave the social, cultural and political fabric of this country, is an unquenchable thirst for power.

Right on the heels of the power quest is a relentless crusade by many groups for acceptance and to gain society’s stamp of approval on a considerable list of various behaviors.

When gay marriage became legal throughout America (but not lawful in the Kingdom of God), the entire lid to Pandora’s Box came off. Various groups that had been for a very long time standing along the sidelines waiting their turn busted out of the box and began to be much more vocal and visible demanding to be recognized and accepted.

And, let me be perfectly clear by stating, we the Church did contribute to the past, and the on-going cultural vacuum that has allowed the redefinition of marriage, family, etc. to happen with so little resistance.

One of the groups that came parading by in 1981, the North American Man-Boy Love Association (NAMBLA), an organization at the forefront pushing for the right of adult homosexuals to have sex with minors.

At its seventh General Membership Conference held in Boston in December 1993, NAMBLA adopted numerous and various points as well as this position: “Whereas it is impossible to say at what age a person is capable of consenting to sex because every individual and every case is different; and therefore any attempt to set an age is capricious, arbitrary, and unfair…” NAMBLA has long been dedicated to the replacement of the age-of-consent laws.

The push for the acceptance of pedophilia is by no means new on the scene as some seem to think today. With the on-going push and threat for the lowering of age-of-consent laws, so that sex with youth might be legally permissible, reveals a threat which pedophilia poses to children and through them, to society.

Herein lies my concern…

If you can get the public to think pedophilia is just another thing – then the battle for legal and social acceptance and rights is pretty much in the bag.

Have we not traveled this same road before? Silence implies consent.

No matter how strongly we may be opposed to any number of agendas, we are first of all called to be Christians who have the privilege of representing Christ to all the communities of the world, regardless of class, color, nationality, gender or sexual orientation.

That said, it is not enough to condemn the darkness, if we fail to shine a light of hope on our disintegrating culture.

“if I profess with the loudest voice and clearest exposition every portion of the truth of God except precisely that little point which the world and the devil are at the moment attacking, then I am not confessing Christ, however boldly, I may be professing Christ. Where the battle rages, there the loyalty of the soldier is tested.” Martin Luther

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