“And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into His likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” (2 Corinthians 3:18)

• You told us we needed to surrender our lives to Christ Jesus and be born-again. We surrendered.
• You told us we needed to forsake and repent of homosexual practice. We repented. We turned away.
• You told us our mind needed renewing and we needed a life transformation. We willing died to self.
• You told us we needed to forsake the gay community and embrace the Church as our new family. We did so by faith.
• You regularly encouraged us to share our testimony. We gladly did so to honor Christ Jesus.
• You continue to remind us the Church is God’s vehicle to reach the wounded, broken, and hurting. We agree.
• You told us the Bible is the textbook for life in all matters of faith and practice. We embraced this truth.
• You reminded us over and over again “Jesus remains the same yesterday, today and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8) Indeed and Amen.

But now, many of you are saying, “Well, maybe homosexuality isn’t so bad after all.”
Many Sunday morning church pulpits have lapsed fully into the silent mode with regard to homosexuality.
The gay community is extremely vocal and highly visible demanding their right to be who they want to be, but we are now being told daily we cannot have and we must now have the same right.

We are your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. We are trying very, very hard to understand. Would you help us, please?

Much too often, we turn around wondering, “Where did everybody go?”

Having once faced and addressed the impact of rejection and abandonment in our lives, must we face it again?

Should we compare where we stand now regarding homosexuality and related issues to the time when things got very, very tough and Jesus said to His disciples, “Will you also turn away?” (John 6:67)

You told us and reminded us frequently…

“The Church must call homosexual practice sin and while that will be offensive to many,
the Word of God must not and cannot be watered down.”

In many respects, we attribute our new lives in Christ Jesus to Christians sharing and holding us to The Truth.

• You told us we were not born gay. We embraced this truth.
• You told us change is possible. We changed.
• You told us our true identity is in Christ Jesus – not our sexuality. True.
• You told us not to allow our past to dictate who we are in Christ today. Agreed.
• You told us homosexuals are redeemable with God’s grace and power more than sufficient to transform a life. Amen.
• You told us sharing the Gospel is not an option for a Christian but rather obedience to a command. Absolutely.
• You told us the only way out of homosexuality was through a deep, personal, intimate relationship with Christ Jesus.

Has any of the above-mentioned changed?

If God has changed and is no longer capable of restoring a man or woman from the brokenness of same-sex attraction,
what else can’t God do?

Truth lived out Christs’ way, does not have any gray edges. It is abundantly clear and straightforward.

We, the prodigals, are your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.

May God help us each and everyone on that day when we are asked to give an account of how we responded to the difficult issue of homosexuality so that we might hear Him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

“IT’S WRONG!!!” “Nope, sorry. Not good enough.”

The reality and Biblical truth of each and every one of us having been born into a fallen world and inheriting a sinful nature validate we are all broken.

Therefore, in the Kingdom of God, the question of “who needs help and wholeness?” is the same for everyone. We all would do well in remembering no one is superior or inferior at the foot of the Cross.

Whether the confession comes from a son or daughter, spouse or close friend, the admission of homosexuality hits like a bombshell, especially in Christian homes. Instantaneously, life seems completely out of control. You are now headed in a direction you never, ever thought you would be going.

How well I remember having to make my own personal confession to my parents. While my confession occurred many, many years ago, I recall, vividly, having to pick my mother up from the kitchen floor.

The ironic truth is that while I felt an immediate sense of relief that “the problem” was now out, my parents, friends, and family members were instantly projected into a state of fear, bewilderment, and consumed by a myriad of emotions.

Once the initial impact has subsided a bit, while Christian families know God is the answer, it still takes a long time for them to wrap their minds around how to engage God in what they perceive as needing to be done. Make no mistake, when someone we know confesses their same-sex attraction, many Christians struggle with how to maintain a Christ-like manner and position which, more than not, results in “Where do we go from here?”

Speaking from experience, having waded through years of healing, discipleship, study, and surrender (at times, daily), when homosexuality hit my family, as it has a multitude of others, it brought pain, indescribable pain, and misunderstanding along with it. Largely, because (way back then), no one knew much about the behavior.

Frankly, about the only comment anyone offered was, “It’s wrong!” Today, just like then, that’s not good enough and completely unacceptable.

While there are no specific verses in the Bible telling us under what circumstances, if any, we should adopt this or that policy toward a homosexual loved one, let’s consider a few specific communications that need to be offered with the hope and endeavor of keeping the lines of communication open.

What the Bible says and why you disapprove of homosexuality every time you are with your child, friend, co-worker, etc., is not a necessary state. However, do make sure the individual knows the following:

• You understand that he/she did not ask for these feelings.
• You appreciate their honesty and transparency in disclosing their issue with same-sex attraction.
• Your belief regarding homosexual practice as sin is not going to change.
• You want to protect your relationship through mutual respect and understanding.
• While you may never agree on the subject of homosexuality, you are committed to not letting that disagreement ruin your relationship.

Put even this crisis in its proper context. Embrace the promise of Romans 8:28 that God makes everything – even calamities – work for our good. Admittedly, it is often very excruciating to wait for the ‘good’ to work. I mean, when it seems that everything is literally coming apart at the seams, it’s hard to consider if anything good will really come out of misery.

• My first encouragement is to learn as much as you can about the causes of homosexuality. Simply knowing it is wrong is not even close to being enough.
• Don’t run the matter into the ground every time you see your son or daughter. Often, there can be a good reason(s) for not dealing with a problem right now.
• Do everything you can to keep the lines of communication open and maintain your relationship. If you feel you have been batting your head against the wall seeking resolution of ‘the problem,’ take a rest. It may not be God’s time to deal with the issue.
• Make sure your son or daughter is aware of your belief and position regarding homosexual practice. Heaven knows, God can deal with and use our mistakes but He cannot deal with our inaction. Be clear and precise.
• Do not argue about homosexuality. The very moment the conversation erupts into anger – drop it! Badgering will only produce pushing the individual in the wrong direction. Many problems and issues in life are often solved very indirectly; not when we are consciously dealing with them, but when we are going about our normal lives.
• It is imperative to distinguish between “acceptance and approval.” It is important to separate, both in our own minds and to our loved ones, their individual worth from the acts of homosexuality they may be committing.
• Stay completely away from Christian cliches such as, “God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve,” and “Love the sinner but hate the sin.” Christian cliches only reinforce the belief of many with same-sex attraction that the Christian community is unwilling to truly educate themselves on the complexities of same-sex attraction.
• Do not hesitate to admit when and where the Church has been wrong with regard to men and women with same-sex attraction. We, the Church, have made mistakes and in some cases owe the gay community an apology.
• Refrain from attacking the character of homosexuals when discussing homosexuality. Keep to the real issue which is whether or not homosexual practice is, in and of itself, moral.
• Do not be discouraged if your conversations do not produce instant fruit. What we will answer to God for is speaking truth lovingly and plainly – not for how our loved one responds.
• Be relentless in looking for every opportunity to share it is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and the indwelling presence of His Spirit which is the foundation needed to overcome same-sex attraction.
• Release control. Let God decide how to bring freedom. God is the only One who can bring about change in the homosexual.
• Let the son, daughter and everyone know that God has a reputation of transforming trapped people with damaged sexualities. “And such were some of you” applies to all Christians who had formerly participated in homosexuality. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11)
• And, remember, those entangled in sin, of course, will have weak faith, so be merciful to those who doubt. (Jude 22)

Somewhere I read, “Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.”

When Jesus Christ is “there” life has infinite possibilities.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 11
Our eleventh broadcast is titled “Now, It’s Personal!” Christians with gay-identified loved ones are often eager to share the Good News of Christ, but they wonder how they can do so without sounding judgmental. When someone you love is homosexual, you quickly become aware of your inability to face life’s challenges apart from the grace of God.

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All past episodes of His Way Out Ministries Radio Broadcast are available by following THIS LINK or selecting the “Audio Podcast” category to the right.

In attempting to right some of the wrongs of the past, have we gone much too far the other way? Have we forgotten that in failing to offer God’s standards clearly and unashamedly, God loves us as we are, but He loves us much too much to leave us as we are?

Is it possible fear and intimidation are now being allowed to guide our lives, ministries, and churches?

Jesus continually reminded His disciples not to fear. (Matthew 10:26-31)

An unhealthy fear of others reveals a lack of trust in God. (Luke 12:4-7)

When we allow our fear to prevent us from doing what is right, we sin against God. (James 4:7)

I love the words of Corrie ten Boom, “Lord, Jesus, I offer myself for this time. Use me in any way necessary to respond to what is happening to what is around me.”

Clearly, if you and I are going to be effective by going into our present culture and addressing sin, first and foremost, God is calling us to look at our own sins, repent of the immorality that exists within our own ranks and…recommit to the biblical standards of holiness.

Today, at least in some circles, one might think the ultimate priority is to politically defeat homosexuals rather than to see them won into the Kingdom of God. That said, with Jesus as our Perfect Role Model, never once did He ever compromise the truth, and never once did He legitimize sin. And yet, He was able to serve people and also relate to them.

Should we not be following His example?

As His Church, we must call fear what it is – a barrier to accomplishing God’s will for our lives and for our churches. Paul reminded Timothy that he was not given a spirit of fear and neither are we. (2 Timothy 1:7)

I would submit that extreme caution must be exercised when endeavoring not to be anti-gay nor being a gay rights promoter and succumbing to just traveling the middle-of-the-road.

Personally, I support basic civil rights for all people. That said, I know all too well the pain of homosexuality. It is completely and totally irresponsible for counselors, teachers, or pastors to tell men and women that homosexuality is an option with no consequences. Therefore, please do not stay out of the river because of the political climate regarding homosexual practice and related issues.

Admittedly, there are deep, critical, and vital issues before us today with raging political theological currents doing their utmost to submerge the Church. Clearly, real and vital issues about the healing and transformation of sexual brokenness have and continue to sharply divide with many lives hanging in the balance.

We, the Church, will not serve humanity, unity nor the cause of Christ Jesus by ignoring the differences that exist or by sticking our heads in the sand. We must not allow emotion or the present political climate to dictate to the Church what we believe nor what we do to further God’s Kingdom.

It is an undeniable fact this issue has wounded many people. Everyone, no exception, that has been or is currently caught up in the cultural chaos over homosexuality needs the understanding and compassion of the Church.

This can be done and it must be done with the Church committed to God’s unyielding truth, expressed in God’s unconditional love.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 15
Our fifteenth broadcast is titled “A Christian Response to Homosexuality”. The faithful Christian Church is called by God to assert its Biblical position that sexuality is God’s good gift – sexually chaste relationships are both possible and desireable – and that sexual passion is designed to be expressed only between a man and a woman in the context of a life-time marriage.

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A Christian Response to Homosexuality with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

All past episodes of His Way Out Ministries Radio Broadcast are available by following THIS LINK or selecting the “Audio Podcast” category to the right.

With Jesus as our Perfect Role Model, the ethics of Jesus calls each and every one of us as His faithful follower to treat all people – bisexuals, homosexuals, heterosexuals, transgenders, pan-sexuals, etc. – with compassion and also seek to do all within our power to promote and stand for the wellness of all people. Ultimately, it is not only how we view people but also how we treat people that will ultimately reflect the love, care, and compassion of Christ Jesus.

Therefore, at His Way Out Ministries, let it be known we repudiate any non-loving, prejudicial attitudes that deny Christ’s unconditional love for all people and declare such to be sin.

Admittedly, it is one thing to stand in judgment of any number of various behaviors today as morally unacceptable; it is quite another in terms of how to respond. Crystal clear distinction needs to be drawn between men and women struggling with unwanted broken identities and behavior versus individuals actively pursuing, living, and promoting a behavior or identity God has deemed unacceptable and sin.

Somehow, some way, what has slithered into the Church today is the misguided notion we Christians are to be out and about saving souls. We are not to save souls – we are to disciple them. Saving souls is God’s business and His alone. As Ambassadors for God, I cannot think of any greater way to honor and glorify God than to reproduce, if you will, men and women after His own image.

That said, a huge problem exists within the Church today. Too often, sharing of the Good News has been shrunk to the dimensions of postings on Facebook and within church walls alone. Evangelism, sharing the Good News, witnessing for Christ Jesus is not the same as filling pews. Sharing of the Good News can be and should be communicated in a variety of ways – and not necessarily, or even primarily, in church.

Personally, I fail to see how anyone can realistically acknowledge Jesus Christ as Lord when choosing to ignore and disregard the command of Jesus Himself to go into all the world and make disciples. Peter reminds us, all Christians are to, “declare the wonderful deeds of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light. Once you were no people but now you are God’s people; once you had not received mercy but now you have received mercy.” (1 Peter 2:9-10)

Sharing the Gospel, telling people about Jesus should be as natural to a Christian as breathing. If not, I humbly submit something is terribly, terribly wrong.

It is an undeniable fact the social, cultural, and political fabric of America has been rewoven by a select and misguided few. Indeed, it is correct to state that much of American society is now fully in the grip of political correctness. Any public challenge or expression of disagreement with any aspect of the gay community, the transgender community, or various other communities, will be met with the Christian community being labeled as ‘bashers.’

However, God placed you here for a purpose and He desires to use your obedience in sharing Him to influence and impact not only this generation but generations to come. All He expects of us is obedience. To share openly, unashamedly, lovingly, without reservation, the greatest news ever announced:

God loves you and offers a wonderful plan for your life.

God’s love and His plan are available to each and every person and to each, every and any community.

And, here’s the bottom line: Sharing the Gospel is simply taking the initiative to share Christ Jesus in the power of the Holy Spirit, and leaving the results to God.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 10
Our tenth broadcast is titled “Why I Cannot Accept the ‘Gay Christian’ Identity.” As Christians, our relationship with God through Christ is the cornerstone of our identity. Today, many are being told, “Accept yourself and follow your heart.” However, Jesus says, “Deny yourself and follow Me.”

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Why I Cannot Accept the ‘Gay Christian’ Identity with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

All past episodes of His Way Out Ministries Radio Broadcast are available by following THIS LINK or selecting the “Audio Podcast” category to the right.

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 6
Our sixth broadcast is titled “Where Does the Journey to Wholeness Begin?” The Christian’s journey to sexual wholeness begins when you put God on the throne instead of self.

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Where Does the Journey to Wholeness Begin with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

All past episodes of His Way Out Ministries Radio Broadcast are available by following THIS LINK or selecting the “Audio Podcast” category to the right.

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Frederick Douglas

While I have met and continue to meet with youth who are determined to resolve issues of their sexuality, most feel too inadequate, lack motivation, and do not have an individual structured in their life to help them through the process of healing and wholeness. Any Christian can emphasize to the hurting there is a hidden need within the heart of everyone that an intimate relationship with God can fill. Reaching youth struggling with their sexuality is something we all can do and must do to help searching youth understand God’s abundant plans for their lives and to counteract agendas that desire to ruin all hope for the youth. You and I may be the only person that will have the courage to share the Good News with a youth struggling with their sexuality.

When it comes to the realities of sexual and relational brokenness, I withdrew from endeavoring to be both politically-correct and church-correct many, many years ago. I despise religion.

For far too many youths today, morality has become purely a matter of personal taste. Regarding sexual expression, opinions vary on how best to attain fulfillment, and in the thinking of many people, these differences are nothing more than opinions. From this perspective, regardless of one’s personal view or opinion on sexual expression, sex outside of marriage between one man and one woman or remaining celibate as a single man or woman, has been reduced to a matter of personal preference or expression.

Today, it is a fact, one youth’s promiscuity is another youth’s monogamy when it comes to sexual expression. It is also a fact there is a demonstrable relationship between promiscuity and high-risk sexual behavior. They are synonymous.

These are perilous times for youth when it comes to the topic of human sexuality and more specifically, sexual expression. Why? Because present realities dictate youth do not get to choose the various and multiple possible consequences that may come their way as a result of just one bad decision or choice. There is great, great reward in living life within God’s holy boundary lines.

I humbly submit that society, and sometimes the Church, is unwittingly promoting social experiments and various behaviors with no justification in reality and, with all probability enabling inevitable serious moral problems with potentially tragic consequences.

To prove my point, I offer this 10-minute video titled “The War on Children: The Comprehensive Sexuality Education Agenda.”

https://vimeo.com/159811104
[Full 35 minute version at https://vimeo.com/152728936]

It only took a few minutes of the video for me to become completely horrified at the level of child abuse that our nation has and is perpetrating upon the world. May God have mercy upon us and send us leaders who will be courageous enough to stand up and put a stop to it.

While it is easy enough to become cynical about the times in which we live, remember when God is put in the equation of life, a hope that does not disappoint rises with us. It is true that the number of youth embracing various forms of sexual expression has become alarming, but we should trust God and reach out to youth with the truth and the message of salvation and sexual redemption available through the Lord Jesus Christ.

If you know Jesus, you are a candidate to be a champion for change in the life of a youth and the world.

A specific word to the Church…

God has given the responsibility of outreach to each and every faithful follower of Christ Jesus. Once again, you may be that individual, that church, who has the ability to make an eternal difference in the life of a struggling youth.

I believe in and continue to have every confidence in the Church’s ability, through Christ, to reach and minister to the sexually and relationally broken. We, His Church, are all in this work together through Him, fulfilling the Great Commission. (Matthew 28:19-20)

Therefore, I pray over you…

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon (you,) because the Lord has anointed (you) to bring good news to the afflicted; He has sent (you) to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty and freedom to those held captive and release from darkness for the prisoners…” (Isaiah 61:1)

God’s passion should be our passion.

Pastor Phillip Lee
Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

His Way Out has been faithfully ministering to men and women seeking a way out of sexually broken lifestyles since 1994. We could not do it without the support of Christians like you. Every dollar that you give to His Way Out Ministries helps to further this vital ministry. Won’t you take a minute to prayerfully consider a monthly donation to His Way Out? Please consider making a one-time donation or set up a secure monthly PayPal contribution on our donation page at https://www.hiswayout.com/donate/. Thank you, Pastor Phillip Lee

His Way Out Ministries Podcasts are dedicated to equipping, educating, and encouraging the Body of Christ to reach out and minister to individuals, families, and churches impacted by the brokenness of same-sex attraction.

Season 1, Episode 9
Our ninth broadcast is titled “Homosexuality and the Church pt2.” Caution: Confrontation is not enough to change a heart. The heart, having been hardened through deception or rebellion or both, has to be softened. And that is the work of God alone. Ours is to speak God’s truth, trusting Him to make it alive in our hearers.

Listen online or download the podcast.

Homosexuality and the Church pt2 with Pastor Phillip Lee – Download MP3 –

All past episodes of His Way Out Ministries Radio Broadcast are available by following THIS LINK or selecting the “Audio Podcast” category to the right.