Among the many issues the Church faces today, none is more important than how the Church ministers to men and women with sexual and relational brokenness. The clarity of Romans 12:2 gives every Christian, without exception, two choices – either conform to the increasingly sexually broken world, or be agents of transformation.
For far too many, the cause and effect of the so called ‘sexual revolution,’ which promoted and promised ‘freedom,’ in reality birthed loneliness, unstable relationships, the abuse of children and the on-going rapid transmission of disease.
Today, there are many men and women needing ministry with regard to sexual and relational brokenness who are already within Church. Sadly, the Church continues to struggle greatly in extending ministry to the sexually broken, whether heterosexual or homosexual. A major change is long overdue.
Frankly, there is no doubt in my mind that men and women who have experienced freedom from same-sex attraction and even those still in the recovery and transformation process have much to teach the Church about ministry to the sexually broken. However, their powerful witness is far too often silenced by the Church. Consequently, we are dismissing and losing a considerable treasure in our own ranks.
In reality, the number of men and women struggling with and combating the long list of heterosexual sexual addictions far out number those combating unwanted same-sex attraction. The number of heterosexuals in our society which engage in sexual promiscuity, living together before marriage, and divorce is huge and cannot be dismissed or ignored.
I find it ironic as well as tragic that despite the undeniable evidence with regard to the need for ministry to the sexually broken in Church, there are those that want to kill the messenger. Today, former homosexuals are frequently attacked from both sides on the debate over morality. Ultimately, what gets lost are those in need of ministry. There is no doubt that the debate over the morality of homosexual practice will continue which will continue to fuel the reality that sexual brokenness exists which points to the truth that the need for ministry is needed and will always exist.
Now, here is where I am confident I will definitely ruffle some feathers. A church, any church that cannot or is unwilling to meet the great need that exists in the Church today with regard to those struggling with sexual brokenness, heterosexual or homosexual, will find itself sexually dysfunctional. Dysfunctional because it places itself in a position of not being able to offer the basic functions of upholding morality and extending ministry to the sexually broken.
Silence is undeniably an earmark of a dysfunctional family because the real problems are never discussed and resolved. I submit, if we, The Church, will decide and follow through by breaking the bonds of secrecy which frequently darken and downplay the reality of sexual brokenness in our own ranks, “we” will find healing.
Not long ago, I was talking with a friend and ministry colleague when she offered, “We are definitely in need of new strategies.” The statement pushed all my buttons. While I agreed, I also thought, “Where do we start?”
How about using reason and logic, not just emotion, to understand what we, The Church, are truly facing?
It seems to me that the much-needed healing of sexual brokenness in our own ranks may just spark the renewal and restoration needed within The Church, thereby enabling the upholding of truth and the extension of compassionate competent ministry.
The ministry of hope, truth, healing and transformation comes from Romans 12:2, where the Apostle Paul calls on all Christians (no exceptions) to transform their lives. The Church must be a welcoming place for those struggling with sexual brokenness.
Jesus told the parable of the Prodigal Son in Luke 15:11-32. If you recall the son went away from his family and ended up in a damaging lifestyle. Ultimately, he comes to his senses, repents and returns home. You hopefully recall that he was met by his loving and forgiving father. But his older brother objected to his welcome home.
This is the choice that stands before many of us today. Will we be the loving father or the condemning brother?
Today, many that are in the process of transformation and recovering from their sexual brokenness, want to be in church, indeed, many are already in our churches. Will we welcome and offer them ministry?
While we, in and of ourselves cannot promise healing to any person, even though we are convinced that God can and does heal many, we must continue to see the Body of Christ as the primary agent for any and all transformation. The ministry of hope, healing, wholeness and transformation takes place in the Body of Christ, The Church.
It is imperative the Body of Christ stand against current trends in today’s society that have and continue to distort human sexuality as God intended and created it.
In the end, we will be successful by extending a ministry solution. We are individually and collectively part of God’s plan by offering the ministry of transformation and humbly realizing God has called us to partner with Him in His plan.
What a privilege. What an honor. What a responsibility.
“…where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.” (2 Corinthians 3:17)
From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries…
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Pastor Phillip Lee
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